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carmensmom03 New Member |
posted 04-26-2007 12:16 AM
  
I had a meeting today with my daughters father in regards to visitation and support, He brought his girlfriend, the one he cheated on me with and left me and my daughter for!!!! And she had the nerve to tell me how to raise my child, and he sat there and saod nothing. Its hard being a single mom yes i may have only one child and no i am not perfect, but it hurt!! He claims that he loves his daughter and yet he makes her wait over four to five hours before he shows up to pick her up and then when he does get here he spend a whole 2 to three hours with her. Where does she get off telling me how to raise my child. They are not married yes they may live together but does that really make a difference? Does she have the right to make any statements in regards to my child?? Is this not between me and my daughters father? Please anyone tell me if i am wrong but i was completely thrown off by the whole thing and i had to leave the restaurant with my daughter in my arms before i got into trouble. I mean does she have any right to say anything to me in regards to my child? Does he? He sees her twice a week an accumulation of four hours of time, and he pays NO CHILD SUPPORT!! I am at my wits end and i cant help but cry and cry, i dont know what to do. I want my daughter to know her father and i want her father to be a major part of her life but how can i allow that to happen if this is what is going to be happeining? How do i deal with this, anybody please i need advise? ------------------ |
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atwitsend Member |
posted 04-27-2007 02:37 PM
speaking from experience regarding my ex's girlfriend-- she has kids also that are not his. She tends to tell me how to raise our daughter- and tends to "knows what is best for her" She doesn't The only one who knows your child the best is you. That is her way of belittling you and making you feel worse- less of a mother. I haven't got the this point yet- but I am soon. The next time she tends to tell me something about raising my child or even wahts to discuss my child- I am going to tell her- only her parents should discuss her- I am going to keep all conversations regarding my daughter between her father and I. Some how I have to find the right and nice way to say that. Just remember as I have problems remembering myself- you and only you know your child best- no one can ever break that bond. |
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Bluebird Member |
posted 05-01-2007 04:30 PM
Isn't everyone the BEST mother? Including those tramps-who-helped-wreck-the-house-and-somehow-know-it-all? Gawd.... someone help us. She isn't fit to blow their noses and I hope she doesn't get close enough to do it very often. You have every right to be angry, shocked and sad. That said, take your crying energy and channel it into being the kind of role model that your daughter will benefit from. Your ex and his...whatever she is... are total jerks. I understand you wanting your daughter to have a father, but this one's a jerk. Little-bitty spurts of visitation and NO support? He's no father. In my opinion, girls need to learn to run very quickly from men like this. My daughter's dad is the same way and, I have to admit, I haven't tried to portray him as some nice guy. How will our daughters recognize that snake in the grass if we don't help them see it? I'm not saying to spell it all out to a young girl (mine's almost 16), but I don't think it's a good idea to idealize him.... that just isn't how he is. I'd keep her away from BOTH of them as much as possible.
[This message has been edited by Bluebird (edited 05-01-2007).] |
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