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lexiesmom Member |
posted 10-19-2005 11:31 PM
 
So, really need some prayers for my daughters best friend right now. She is fourteen and they go to school together. yesterday she got sexually assualted by one of the older boys at school. She spent the night at the hospital and the morning but refused to go home with her mom and wanted to return to school THe shock hasnt quite hit her yet, and I know it will, I have been there myself and it can really screw up your life especailly at a young age. I pray she talks to some one who can help her through this and is able to put it behind her and not let it haunt her. |
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jwg_yqr Member |
posted 10-20-2005 12:13 AM
I'm so sorry to hear such a horrible thing happened to Lexi's friend. I'll include her in my prayers. |
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JAYJAY Member |
posted 10-20-2005 01:15 AM
My prayers are with her and her family. Have been there myself, so i know how bad it can be. -x-x- |
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mommyof2 Member |
posted 10-20-2005 11:10 AM
I will be praying for her. |
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~*FallenAngel*~ Member |
posted 10-20-2005 12:37 PM
im so sorry to hear of this...thats why i think the older kids should be put in a seperate school then these younger kids |
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lexiesmom Member |
posted 10-20-2005 06:11 PM
fallen, unfortunatly her friend is fourteen a little older than lex, so she is in hs and the boy is only a few months oler than she is. Richard yes the school is taking is very seriously, they called in the special victims unit, and crime scene investigations. THe boy was expelled and is currently in jail since he is 15 he can be tried as an adult. She was taken to the ER. The school is trying to figure how it happened. the kids after school hours are required to sign in and out of the cottages and are not allowed to be alone with boys/girls of the opposite sex. THe school keeps all bathrooms every thing locked so things like this can't happen. So they are really trying to piece it together on how she ended up with two boys when she shouldn't have had a chance to be alone with one. So the school has stepped up to see what happened and how. Sexual assualt in the deaf community is unfortuantly at a higher rate than in the hearing community. thanks for the prayers everyone, she is going ot have a tough time after talking to her parents things on thier end don't seem to be be handled the way they should. her mom allowed her to stay at school fo rht e rest of the week, instead of brnging her home and her dad didnt even go down with her mom when they found out. I jsut hope and pray they can find thier way through tthe anger and pain to be the support she needs and will need for awhile. |
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Bluebird Member |
posted 10-20-2005 08:42 PM
I feel just awful for this girl. I pray that she heals and has the support she needs to move past this. Her parents need to step up and get more involved with this to help their daughter. I will be praying for them all. |
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ladybugss Member |
posted 10-20-2005 10:01 PM
Poor thing. Since the parents are not getting their act together, I hope the school will at least get her with counselers. What about Lexi? What added steps has the school taken to ensure that the children are better supervised and protected? Just curious, why are sexual assaults higher in the deaf community? |
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lexiesmom Member |
posted 10-20-2005 11:47 PM
Lex doesn't know what happened yet, she is still in middle school so during the weeke she is not allowed around the hs kids. So she knows her friend was taken to the er but doesn't know why, I told her we would talk about it this weekend. THe middle school keeps tighter riegns on the girls and they do not go anywhere without a supervising adult. I am glad that we will be moving soon and she will be home with me. They have wonderful counselors down there and as long as her parents approve it she will see one as often as needed. The school has tightend the riegns alot on all the students, they were already pretty tight so I am not sure what else they are doing the cottage (dorm) counselors were in a meeting for several hours yesterday. It is higher do to one communication complications, generally assualt s are done by a hearing indivudual because they figure the girls won't tell or cant tell. and the lack of sex education in the community is astounding. They revamped the sex ed program through school last year, but it is amaizing the logic some of these kids have. One of the girls in lex's class told me that it is the boy who decides when you have sex. I was floored. Another sad part about it is the lack of communication between hearing parents and their deaf children. Statisticlly things are getting slightly better but as of 3 years ago only 80 % of the hearing parents with deaf children ever learn sign language. Well, it is a little hard to talk to your children about sex and assualt or drugs and drinking if you ave no way to commincate with them . so these girls ae going to school with no idea wha tsex is let alone what is aceptable or not when it comes to sex. And boys arent taught what is acceptable and what is respectful versus what is inappropriate and then just plain illegal. THings have started to change in the community because people in the comunity have finally realized that the schools and the community need to step because parents aren't. |
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JAYJAY Member |
posted 10-21-2005 06:38 AM
Good luck with your talk with Lex. She is lucky she has a mum that takes the time to talk to her about things. My daughter and i talk a lot, she knows about sex or as she puts it " that word" When she had a form to fill out at school. where it said, SEX, MALE/FEMALE she crossed it out and put BOY OR GIRL. All the best and i hope Lex is ok when you tell her. It can have a big effect on you even as you become an adult. -x-x- [This message has been edited by JAYJAY (edited 10-21-2005).] |
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ladybugss Member |
posted 10-21-2005 09:26 PM
I can't understand how a parent wouldn't want to learn there kids language. I know it'll be tough to chat with Lex about the situation, but you are a great mom and the right words will come! |
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cgracec Member |
posted 10-22-2005 11:50 AM
I am sorry to hear about her friend. There are some really ugly people in this world. I'll keep her in my prayers. |
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lexiesmom Member |
posted 10-22-2005 08:21 PM
Well, I can't understand it but her friends parents let her stay the whole week at school and she was on teh bus Friday when I picked up Lex. She acted like nothing happened or was wrong at all. I guess people do handle things differently. Or maybe because of lack of communication she doesn't see what a violation of her that it was? I don't get it. Lex and I went out to dinner last night and had a long talk about what happened, what could she have done if she was in the same situation, and she was even a ittle perplexed at her friends non chalant attitude about it. I have to say I do love times like this when we can have conversations in sign while we are out in public and I am not worried about anyone knowing what we are takling about. I can't imagine not wanting to learn my childs language either.  Thanks everyone for the prayers, I guess they are working since she seems to be doing well. |
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