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suzieb187 Member |
posted 10-16-2005 08:00 PM
 
Hi everyone, As I posted in another thread, I am new to the community here and just reading a lot of posts, I commend all of you for being such wonderful single parents! I am currently 7 months pregnany (1st child) and a couple weeks ago I moved out of the home my ex fiance and I shared. We were together for a good number of years and he proposed just last year. He always had a problem with alcohol and just a few weeks ago I just couldn't take the way he acted any longer and decided the best decision and move to make was to leave the house. I foolishly thought that he would stop even when he went to AA but gave that up after 2 weeks. It was a very unhealthy environment and I believe I mde the best decision for the three of us! I am praying that God enlightens him in showing him that his #1 priorty should be the baby and not his friends, parting and drinking all the time. I hope he stops and the only person that can help him is him and God and I hope he realizes this because he is going to miss out on the most beautiful gift God has sent us. Sorry for making this long! God bless everyone! |
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lexiesmom Member |
posted 10-16-2005 08:07 PM
oh sweetie, we'll keep him in our prayers. You did the right thing. You 1st priority is your new baby. and keeping her in a safe enviroment and yourself in safe enviroment. |
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suzieb187 Member |
posted 10-16-2005 08:19 PM
thank you! I also believe I did the right thing for her! I do not want her to see her dad drunk and me getting angry and us fighting etc! thanks again!! |
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cgracec Member |
posted 10-16-2005 08:35 PM
I just want you to know how much I admire you for what you did. This had to be very difficult for you but you are wise enough to recognize that until he truly wants to stop, he won't. With any addict, the pull of the addiction is stronger than his love of anything or anyone else. Those who love an addict find that it is so easy to become hyper focused on trying to help them fix themselves. If you had stayed, without realizing it you could have been enabling him. I will pray for you and I hope you can surround yourself with a strong support group. Are you involved with Alanon? The behavior of an alcoholic or someone with an addiction is to try and blame someone else for their behavior. It sounds like you already know this but because you love this man, and you are in a vulnerable state, I will pray that God helps you find a strong support system so whan you are tempted to go back into the situation even though he has shown no definite signs of change you have others to help you be strong. We are here for you too. God Bless. |
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suzieb187 Member |
posted 10-18-2005 10:24 AM
Thank you everyone for your support. I actually have a great support system - my family! My parents, brother and sisters have been great in always being there for me even though over the past couple of years they told me from the beginning to leave the relationship a long time ago because he would NOT change. I guess I finally realized it and saw this for myself. It was very hard for me to leave extremely hard. I never in my life thought that my life would be this way. When I got engaged I thought it would be one time and I would spend the rest of my life with him. When I had a baby I thought it would be much different than how the situation is now. I am trying to stay happy, healthy and strong for the baby. My #1 priority is her now and I live for her. She has not been born yet but I love her so much that I just can't understand how a person could not care or help themselves for this precious human being coming to this world.... |
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JAYJAY Member |
posted 10-18-2005 10:35 AM
God bless, You will be fine, and your baby has a wonderful and caring mother. -x-x- |
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