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prosperousdiva Member |
posted 02-04-2005 09:39 PM
  
Hello all, I'm typing this entry trying to get some prayer partners!! I'm a firm believer in prayer and I know it changes things so I'm asking that you all pray that I start loving my ex husband as Christ says for us to love. . .with compassion and unconditionally. It seems that everytime I try to love him like I should, he does something so incredibly crazy that I have to "fast and pray" to talk to him agian neither alone love him :-( I thought I was soooooo past this stage of adjusting after the divorce but I guess if I'm honest with myself, I still have some unresolved issues. However, I can't figure out for the life of me what they are other than the fact that I'm soooo TIRED!! Just plain tired. . .tired of my ex having to be reminded of his roles and responsibilities as a parent. I used to do it all of the time when we first divorced, then I realized that I'm not his mother/father nor am I God so I couldn't tell him anything. Then I just started ignoring him, in hopes that he would one day "get it". Well he hasn't gotten it and it makes me even more upset that it doesn't appear that he's going to change. You know, I just don't want to type any more. . . I'm sure you all are bored. And I'm soooo full right now, I could type about this forever. Just keep me in your prayers. |
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leigh1517 Member |
posted 02-04-2005 10:19 PM
I'll be your prayer partner, as will many others I'm sure. Loving your ex and loving God are two different things as far as I'm concerned. Loving God means you let go of trying to make someone else do what they should be doing. Why should you waste your energy doing that? When we try to control things, we're only getting in God's way of doing His job. The hard lesson...we have to let go of the control and risk everything falling apart, which is really humorous, because we can't control anyone in the first place anyway. When we try to control we're just scared of the uncertain. We think we know the "right" way because it's logical. But, oftentimes, the craziness of life is what brings us to the truth. I'm still confused and learning every minute, but one thing I know for sure is that I can't control anyone. What they are is who they are and that is out of my control. It's really a good feeling to let go of that control. It's not your job to remind your ex of his roles and responsibilities. Unfortunately, there are people in this world who rely on people like you and I to do that. It's as much our fault as theirs because we fall into the role that isn't ours in the first place. Detatch yourself. I'll be praying for you. Please pray for me too because I have the same weakness. BUT, with the right person (a good-hearted person), it is a strength. |
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prosperousdiva Member |
posted 02-07-2005 06:23 PM
Thank you so much for encouraging me!! I'm glad to know that I have someone praying with me. |
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ladybugss Member |
posted 02-07-2005 09:47 PM
I still catch myself getting angry at the ex for not caring enough for my child. I've found the thing that helped me the most was praying that God would bless my ex every time I would get angry at him for something he did. I had a few other prayers that would switch out. I'd also admit to God that I thought he was a jerk and asked him to change my heart. It's still not fully changed, but it's alot better. In addition, I'll be praying for you. Blessings, Deb |
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lexiesmom Member |
posted 02-16-2005 05:10 PM
I would love to be your pratyer partner, the best way to get through anything amd everything is through prayer. Feel free to ask for prayers anytime. |
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