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cgracec Member |
posted 07-24-2005 10:01 AM
  
This last week has been one crisis after another! Anyway, I was very very involved in the upbringing of one of my ex's nieces. She is 21, at University full time, and has been working at a nice restaurant as waitress for the last couple of years to help with school expenses. A couple of weeks ago she came over and was very upset. This 40 something waiter was constantly addressing her with degrogatory racial slurs and her manager was encouraging it. She is Oriental and both men are white males. She was getting to the point that she didn't want to go to work. I told her to go to the owner or to H.R. and look for anther job at the same time. She said that she didn't want to go over his head because she was afraid of making things worse but she is looking for another job. A couple of nights ago her manager started telling the waiter to "give it to the chink" so she pulled him aside and confronted him. He fed her some line that he didn't realize it was upsetting her and that he didn't want her to quit. So she went back to work and the 40 something guy starts in with the slurs. The manager isn't calling her names but he is laughing and encouraging the other guy. My niece got upset and pulled the manager aside telling him that she feels it is a waste of time to try to talk with him because he just discarded what was discussed and is basically "blowing smoke up her ass" He fired her on the spot saying she is rude and insubordinate. I told her to go to the owner or H/R anyway. Even if it doesn't help her it will make it better for anyone who comes in after her. She said that she is so ashamed and just wants to find another job. I told her that her choice of words wasn't the best, but under circumstances I probably wouldn't have been as calm. In reality, the shame is on those two idiots. My daughter said that I should track down the owner of the restaurant and give him a heads up that this manager is a lawsuit waiting to happen but my niece doesn't want anyone to interfere. I still think it wouldn't hurt for me to put in a couple of calls but I don't want to make things worse. Any suggestions? |
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Bluebird Member |
posted 07-24-2005 12:15 PM
cgracec, I think your niece should report that manager to HR. If nothing else, the complaint will be on file. She was being harassed and it shouldn't go unreported. Chances are he has harassed others and will undoubtedly do it to someone else in the future. I'm glad she stood up to him, even if her words were out of anger. I think she exercised a lot of restraint-- how long had she put with these remarks before saying something? I hope she reports him-- them. No one deserves to be treated like that. If she reports him, she helps herself and others by standing up against racial discrimination. |
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MN110 Member |
posted 07-24-2005 03:17 PM
How about the BBB or the ACLU? Are there local offices? |
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BrendaKO Member |
posted 07-25-2005 01:08 AM
I am with LJ and Richard on this. Get a lawyer and sue. That kind of treatment in inexcusable and against the law. Man I hate to hear these sorts of things in this day and age. I believe very strongly in standing up for yourself and she should not let their behavior go unchecked. |
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cgracec Member |
posted 07-25-2005 07:03 PM
Thanks for the support. I do business with a ton of attorneys and they suggested that she document everything and file a complaint with the labor board here for starters, then get an attorney to write a letter to human resources. She is initiating that today. She has been putting up with this for a couple of months now. She didn't want to tell her mom because her mom is about half my size but has half the patience and twice the temper. I told her she shouldn't have been putting up with this for 5 minutes and these guys were treating her badly because they thought they could get away with it. I didn't tell her, but I located the regional manager's # who is her manager's boss and I intend to ask him why that guy still has a job. It is one thing if that were to happen to me, but don't mess with my kids! Thanks for the support and the good suggestions. |
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BrendaKO Member |
posted 07-25-2005 08:12 PM
Good luck with every thing! Atleast she is not doing this by herself, and she has a wonderful support system. |
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Bluebird Member |
posted 07-25-2005 11:17 PM
If I had been in her shoes, it probably would have taken a while to sink in that it was really happening to me, you know? She was probably blown away and was wondering if she was imagining how bad it really was. I hope she continues to pursue this. It'll take a lot of energy and conviction to follow it through, but if she does she'll feel so good about herself-- and she'll have helped stop it from happening to someone else. Racism is another of my huge soap boxes. I hate that people dare to judge others by the skin God puts us in. I think it is one of the world's greatest sins. I wish your niece the absolute best through this. |
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