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atwitsend Member	posted 10-18-2006 02:23 PM             This in itself is a long sotry, but leaving the details out. Has anyone had to pay back child support for my daughter that was paid by mistake or given at the same time social security benefits via her disabled dad was given at the same time? Has anyone else heard thsi form their lawyer that the courts consider overpayment of child support a gift?
lexiesmom Member	posted 10-18-2006 07:33 PM          Wish I could help, but my ex hasn't paid support in order to pay to much. Hope someone else has an answer for you.
Teenika4 Member	posted 12-10-2006 10:49 AM             I am a single(never-married) mom with a beautiful 15 year old daughter. Her father walked out on me before the 3rd month of my pregnancy--I was living in Washington, DC at the time. I had to pack all our things and move back home to Connecticut so I could be where we'd have SOME kind of support. Despite the way my daughter's father treated me, I always kept the door open for him to be in his daughter's life. I sent him pictures, wrote letters about her growth and progress, etc. For the first 7 YEARS of her life, my daughter had no contact with her father because he was too busy being mad at me because I didn't choose to stay in DC even though he had made it clear he wasn't going to do anything to help me with our child. Then one day out of the blue(when she was 7 years old), her father showed up on my doorstep. My daughter had been asking questions about her real dad, so I was just glad to see him, and for my daughter to finally get to know her dad. It was a heart-wrenching day for all of us, but her father and I decided to put the past behind us and be friends, for our OWN sakes as well as for our daughter's sake. For about a year and a half, her father did very well staying in contact with her--if he couldn't see her, he'd call(he was still living in DC,but sometimes had truck runs that brought him up here). Then, when he decided to move to Georgia, he stopped calling, writing, or anything. My daughter has not seen her father in 8 years, and, unless SHE calls him first, they don't talk to each other. My daughter is so hurt by her father's rejection--it breaks my heart to see her go through this. I convinced her to write her father a letter telling him exactly how she feels about his treatment of her, and it was mailed already. He never paid regular child support because I never took him to court, and frankly, I feel the a REAL MAN does not wait to be asked or forced to help financially with his own child. But, it's been a struggle. I keep trying to "work things out with him", I wrote him a letter explaining that I could use some kind of regular support from him--I don't want to fight with him. Since my daughter is now 15, is it too late to try to get child support from him? What if he denies that he's her father(she looks just like him, and he KNOWS she's his daughter)? And, what can I do to help my daughter emotionally? Are there support groups for children being raised in situations like ours?
lexiesmom Member	posted 12-10-2006 12:37 PM          Teenika, it is never too late to collect support. He can deny he is the father till he is blue in the face but DNA still wins out over his word. I say you both deserve the support he owes you. Call your DA's office or child support enforcment office and get it started. He will be charged for back child support for the past 15 years unless he in any way can show/prove he paid you some kind of support than that will be taken off what he owes. My ex doesn't pay but the arears keep adding up he owes over a $100,000. and with interest and continued missed payments he will be paying long after hse turns 18 or 21. Funny thing is guys/gals seem to think that if they can just dodge support till the kid is 18 then they are in the clear they don't realize it never goes away it just continues to build.

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