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lexiesmom Member |
posted 09-18-2006 07:44 PM
 
So I am sick of him not paying and really sick of the DA and the "hope he sees the light" comment. i sent letters to both our congressman and sentor. Waited for them to have some type of response as to why every sp I know in Reno can't seem to collect a dime of cs, what are our taxpaying dollars doing? Aside from remodeling the DA's office for the 3rd time in 5 years. I even walke din there with his phone number and address. i got told "oh we treied to serve him there but he doesn't live there." Really so his wife and daughter live there, but he doesn't? Ya ok, buy a clue people. So I just sent a letter to the local paper, luckily I did an interview with one of the columnists a while back when Lexie had her implnat surgery. She was the first in the state to have one so it was a huge deal. So I sent her a letter. I doubt I will ever see a dime, bt maybe it will help get the DA off thier butts and help someone else. I get they are overwhelmed and dealing with a lot of upset parents, but they would get less phone calls from fewer angry parents if something was getting done. maybe if they spent less redecorating they could hire a few extra people. |
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mommyof2 Member |
posted 09-19-2006 10:44 AM
Applaud! Applaud! Applaud! I believe something good will come of this. Hopefully your wake-up call serves as a reminder that we as tax payers are paying them to do a job. |
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lexiesmom Member |
posted 09-19-2006 11:17 AM
That is my hope. It might not do me any good but maybe it will help another mom or dad out there. I think the DA here if not in most places think that we are a bunch of lazy people who sit around and collect welfare. I don't think they realize that for those who do collect welfare it is because they have generally given up and can't earn enough to pay daycare and bills. And the rest of us either work our butts off at two or three jobs or like last semester I was going to school full time working at SBX full time and working on the research project which overlapped with a marketing project so at one point I was wokring two part time jobs, a full time job and going to school full time. I wouldn't have qualified for any type of assistance because I was student. They see student loans as assistance, yay I get to pay them back! Not to mention if they got off the tails and did thier job I wouldn't need the extra job or in many cases welfare. Oh forgot to mention, he (ex) is wokring under the table for his mothers contruction company. THe da also told me there was nothing they could do about that. So I called the DA in DC and she said they would take over the case when we moved there and first stop would be IRS against his mom! |
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jwg Member |
posted 09-19-2006 11:50 AM
Go for it Erica!!! He and (by guilty association) his mom owe it to Lexie. All's fair! It's sickening to watch the ex live a fruitful life when he is not fulfilling his obligations to his child. I recently mentioned to one of my married friends my next step in making sure my ex meets his financial obligations (I am currently registered with Maintenance Enforcement and get some money that way) and she told me that I shouldn't be vindictive and just let him be. The man dumped a $55,000 business debt on me (because I was stupid enough to co-sign when we were married), has declared bankruptcy for what the prosecutor's office tells me is the third time, and is now out spending money like crazy and shopping for a new SUV. All I said I was going to do is report his new vehicle to Maintenance Enforcement as an asset they can seize for his child support arrears. So I say get what you can and take no prisoners!! After all, it's for Lexie. |
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Bluebird Member |
posted 09-19-2006 05:22 PM
Many of us mothers here are in the same boat: we have our children 24/7 (or mostly) without any break or help with parenting. I know how hard I work at work and at home, and I know how tired I am, so I know how tired you all are, too! It's not fair! I think money is the LEAST they can do.... they don't parent-- what makes them think they get to skip the whole deal! |
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reasmon Member |
posted 09-20-2006 07:47 AM
Go for it Erica - everyone is right, this isn't about getting money for us, it is about supporting our children. My Ex just keeps switching jobs - the court trustee sends the order to his new employer, by the time they get it set up in their systems - I get maybe a payment or two and the he quits, spends a few months doing God knows what until he finds another job and does it all over again. But I am thankful that I at least get a few hundred dollars here and there. Plus he files taxes, so every tax season they will be taking his return to make up his arrears! (Or at least that is what they did last year) |
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JAYJAY Member |
posted 09-20-2006 03:39 PM
Erica i hope he pays up soon Jwg and i were talking about this problem the other day, mine is always saying he has no money, i think it is because i may ask for more for HIS daughter. [This message has been edited by JAYJAY (edited 09-20-2006).] |
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