posted 08-11-2006 11:00 AM            

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I first took my daughter's father to court for child support a little over a year ago. Once things finally got through the court and the attorneys and his employer, things seemed to be working out fairly nicely. He owed me a little chunk of change for back support and for the months he didn't pay while they were getting the order established, but he was working and paying in on a regular basis. Because he was a little behind, when he files his taxes, the state took his return and gave it to me. Mind you, I had nothing to do with that. Well, that just pissed him off and I haven't been receiving regular support since. I am really struggling financially right now, so I called and asked him what was going on and if he could make a payment. (He hasn't made a full child support payment in the last 3 months!) He told me he wasn't behind and didn't owe me any money and was disgusted that I would call, because regardless of whether he gives the state any money, they still pay me. EXCUSE ME - WHAT? What an idiot - I couldn't believe he really believed that crap. I sent a letter to the court trustee's office on Monday, asking them to investigate the delinquency. But I am feeling a little damned if I do/damned if I don't. I have been told that if he doesn't start making regulat payments again, they will force him to serve weekend jail time - if he is in jail, then Reagan doesn't get to see him on the weekends like she is used to. What a mess - why can't he just pay support like he is supposed to?
Thanks for the vent!

[This message has been edited by reasmon (edited 08-11-2006).]

posted 08-11-2006 11:30 AM            

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Make him pay.

The only reason my ex has always payed his child support is becuase he knows people that have ended up in jail for not paying and I have big male friends that work with him that would love to beat the tar out of him he didnt. I would never do something like that, but they put the fear of god into him right from the beginning. We have never been to court.

Our agreement is that he gives me not much money for the kids, but they are on his health and dental and he takes them every weekend so I can work my twelve hour shifts.

Vent on.

posted 08-11-2006 06:09 PM            

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I agree with Lee-Ann, make him pay.

I didn’t go through the district attorneys office when he started messing with my payments. I had it written in the divorce decree that he is to pay x amount of child support, he was doing fine up until he started be a day or two late and deducting when ever he felt like it, so I served his employer with a copy of the divorce decree stating he is to pay x amount and sure enough I had the payments automatically transferred into my checking account each pay period.

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