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ladyinred Member |
posted 03-30-2006 04:35 PM
 
Has anyone ever had their ex (or just father of their child) run from child support? Right now CS is garnished from his pay check but what happens if he up and moves out of state and I don't know which state he goes to? How hard would it be to contact him? |
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mom-of-one Member |
posted 03-30-2006 10:28 PM
I'm not sure if this will help you. But when I posted that same question to my local Child Support Agency they told me with a social security number of my ex, If he decided to get another job without me knowing about, they would be able to trace that through the IRS. I do have friend that works at the agency, She told that would work if my ex still got a job in which he received a paycheck. If he decided to work for cash jobs, they could not garnish his wages but still would be able to find him. I'm not sure of all states have such agencies but it might be worth checking into. Good Luck |
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lexiesmom Member |
posted 04-02-2006 01:32 PM
just having a support order and a social does not gaurantee they CS will be able to find him. I hate to say it but unfotunatly it's true. I know many women on this site are in the same boat where the ex has disappeared. Lexies dad vanished off the face of the earth nine years ago and not a dime has been seen since then. They can't find a drivers lic. issued anywhere. he doesn't work at least he doesn't pay taxes. I gave the CS his mother address and the name of her construction company because I am sure he is there working under the table but they wouldn't check it out. He is over 2000 miles away or I would go up there myself. I guess one good thing is I talked to the support nagency in DC where we are moving and they hxe no problem letting the irs look into his moms company. Good luck and think positive maybe he will contiue to work honestly and support his daughter I think most guys are genreally decent and want to support thier kids. |
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Suzanne Member |
posted 04-02-2006 09:58 PM
My ex would quit jobs left and right to avoid paying child support. Finally he took off out of state and as soon as they found him using his ss# he quit. But CA stayed in contact with WS and they got him again. I think since my son's been born he's had at least eight jobs.I just don't rely on the money and then when it comes I am thankful. Luckily this last time I've been getting it regularly so hopefully he's learned his lessen. His parents hid him at first,too. Which is so sad that grandparents would have their grandchildren suffer. ONE small thing is that my son is so wonderful and I am so proud to know that ALL that he is is because of how I alone have raised him. I hope that you don't have to go through tracking him down cuz it does suck. Good luck! |
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yankeehater Member |
posted 04-03-2006 02:19 PM
I just do not understand why locating a parent is such a difficult task, but I do know that procedures can change from state to state and county to county. When my ex left us and moved out of state, I gave the DCSS (Dept. of Child Support Services) her address and work info but it took over a year for them to start garnishing her wages because they had to confirm her address by certified letter, which she would never accept. She quit her job last October and found a new one in November, DCSS has yet to verify her employment for garnishment. Its like Suzanne said, I do not count on it any more but its nice when it shows up. P.S. it is not always the father that dodges their responsibilities |
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Suzanne Member |
posted 04-03-2006 08:15 PM
We know that, yankeehater...but let's face it, the only reason we can say things about the "typical" men is because there are none on this site! All of you men on this site love your children enough to ask for advice, where as the "typical" male KNOWS IT ALL! All of you men on this site offer support to single moms where as the "typical" male wants us to support him....literally. So hugs and kisses to all you single dads out there who DO take care of their own. As my son would say "ROCK ON!" Disclaimer: Not that,I, Suzanne ... believe in generalizing the "typical" male. This was written purely on the generalizing way uhh..some(uhhh... not me) women think.....HEE HEE. [This message has been edited by Suzanne (edited 04-04-2006).] |
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ladyinred Member |
posted 04-04-2006 04:56 PM
Sorry yankeehater, I didn't mean it the way I said it if that makes sense. So I pretty much just have to sit and wait and if the time comes, hope my CS agency will be able to find him? Is there anywhere I can see if my state has anything like yours mom-to-one? |
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lexiesmom Member |
posted 04-06-2006 12:19 PM
I agree it shouldn't be that hard and as a rule I don't believe it is if the other parent is an honest human being and choses to work ligitamently. However she asked what could be done in the case were he to quit paying and move out of state. If he continues touse his social and work they will have no problem garnishing his wages however many men also bounce from job to job as soon as CS cathes up with them or chose to find cash paying jobs and then there isn't a whole lot you can do. Again good luck hopefully he will do the right thing, pay his support and remain with a job. |
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