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Alejandra Member |
posted 11-20-2005 05:43 PM
  
My case is a little bit different of all i have read but i hope someone can give me an answer. I came here to learn english and was planing to come back to my country, almost 4 months ago i met someone "one night stand" we were talking by the phone for 3 weeks but the day we met we ended in bed the result..I am pregnant. I told him and first he was still online and talking to me, now, he just delete me from his yahoo list. I told him i got temporary medicaid, i told him my doctors apointments just in case he want to go, until now he never say no or yes, but of course i havent see him since that night. My question is when the baby born i should registrer the baby with his last name or mine? I can fight for a child support? please if someone knows the answer help me. thanks |
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NCP Member |
posted 11-21-2005 10:44 AM
If you are on medical assistance, they will help you with the child support, you just have to wait until the baby is born, Do you know where he is? |
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NCP Member |
posted 11-21-2005 03:33 PM
Richard, who are you referring too? |
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Alejandra Member |
posted 11-21-2005 08:19 PM
Thank u for answer my question...NCP. yes I know where he works, i have his phone number but i dont have his adress. I really think i dont need him, is kind of dignity or be proud. I know wasnt his decision to keep the baby, but was when he decide not to use condom. I am 33 yrs. old, and i wasnt planing to have children out of marriage, but when i found out i was pregnant i couldnt think in abortion. I am very exited to be a mom, everything is doing well in my pregnancy, no having morning sikness at all, no tired, really i dont feel i am pregnant, just because i can see the baby with the ultrasound. I hate to fight for money or responsabilities, i believe things have to work because people want to do something without presure at all. Is sad the things supose to be hapiness for couples in my case is not a celebration an especia someone...but i dont know who is losing more. And I dont know later if he will miss this time, or he just going to show up to ask for his child...I am very concern about to fight or ignore... |
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reasmon Member |
posted 11-22-2005 08:17 AM
You and your child deserve support. It is great when you can get all support--financially, emotionally-for you and the child, and physically for the child. But that isn't always the case. If you file for support, which you should, then the courts will help you set up a parenting plan-some guidelines for who is going to house the child and when the other parent gets to see the child. This guy has a choice of whether or not he wants to be part of the child's life, but he won't be able to just take the child away. And even if he doesn't want to be there for the child, he still needs to support the child financially. Good Luck! |
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chngCSlaws Member |
posted 11-27-2005 12:04 AM
Hi, I gave my daughter her father's name because I thought that I "should" give it to her. I wish now that I had given her both last names. Although, we tried to work things out b/t us his problems with alcohol and drugs kept it from working. If I use my name "people" don't associate her with me...and I am raising her alone. Now, my situation is that his divorced parents are involved and my daughter's grandfather very much involved. So, her name is her connection to them, too. I feel though that I would be more comfortable now with her having both names. I plan to do this later when I can afford to legally change her name. It costs about 800.00 and it was free to name her at birth. SO, think carefully and realistically not emotionally. BTW - name and child support are not linked - child support and paternity are the important links - if he does not admit paternity at birth, then he must to the courts. |
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sandra Member |
posted 05-23-2006 10:41 PM
this is so sad. You are having a baby who will have no father and your concerned about fighting for 'your rights'?? |
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sandra Member |
posted 05-25-2006 09:55 AM
I'm sorry, but the casual way you refer to having made a child with some guy you barely know is really unresponsible, and your child will be the one to pay the price for that. I dont understand how people can act so casual about getting pregnant by some guy they dont even know,-----very sad..... |
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yankeehater Member |
posted 05-26-2006 02:43 AM
At first, I was excited today when I saw a lot of posts and thought that everyone had something new to say or maybe some updates with school being out, but then I read them all and they were nothing but cynical replies that did not even answer the problems or questions being asked. On this site we try to be supportive of one another, not tear people down and impose a self righteous point of view. Even in the one post I read where you did reply positively, Sandra, you took the oppurtunity to belittle the authors of other posts. |
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sandra Member |
posted 05-31-2006 07:47 PM
My intent is only to try and get people to think a little bit, about children, instead of just automatically going along with whatever. It bothers me when children are treated so casually, because they are just innocent and it's so important that they have a stable life. Sometimes people have to get divorced for certain reason such as abuse, drugs, having affairs, and that's really sad, but then you have to do the best you can. But to casually set a child up for a life without a dad will be sad for the kid. I wish more people would treat children as valuable as they are. |
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