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allie40
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posted 10-16-2005 04:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for allie40   Click Here to Email allie40     Edit/Delete Message
I am very curious as to how you all feel about this. My husband was in Kuwait and told when he came home he has a daughter. The mother of the daughter and he never married. The mother also never worked. In the three years that we have been married she has lived with her mother and never had a job or a contributing member of society. Now she is suing him for child support although she refuses to get a job. We are requesting a paternity test be done to see if she is really his child. He has also had his doubts but he has taken care of her for 15 years. Now he is disabled to work due to a spinal condition. I agree if she is his child he should take care of her but if she isn't his child... I think she should pay us back every penny we have spent on her starting with the outrageous plane ticket we bought her to come and spend this past summer with us. She was rude and ugly to everyone in this house and delighted on cutting me down in front of my friends and family. She was even ugly to my husband. My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years and the order says we have to show our W2 forms for the past 3 years. I think this whole thing is about me and not him. She isn't dealing with the fact that he loves me and not her. She lives at home with her mother and when we took her to the airport to fly home they promptly went and bought her 420 dollars worth of clothes, She has bad teeth that need to be fixed badly but guess what? It costs to much for Grandma to put her on her insurance but Grandma is listed as her legal guardian on all of her school papers. Add to that Grandma just bought a new SUV.. I am curious as if this would make anyone else as IRATE AND OUTRAGED as it does me.

lexiesmom
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posted 10-16-2005 05:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lexiesmom     Edit/Delete Message
I would say your husband needs to get a lawyer and take it before a judge who can order a DNA testing and her mother would be in contempt if she didnt follow through. After that at least you will feel more comfortable with paying the support knowing it is in fact his child. And if it isn't than that would be a leagl issue. I know here in CA we just recently had a case, where a lady was reciening support from the wrong guy, a guy she told that she never slept with anyone else, for 4 years and the court required a DNA test and he wasnt the father now she has to repay it and file a spport order for the right guy.

kedcse
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posted 10-16-2005 08:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for kedcse     Edit/Delete Message
Allie, well the good thing is that since she is now requesting the services of the court for child support, your husband should and can take a paternity test. I assume he has been served with the documents for the suit, and filed an answer in the courts requesting the genetic testing...If he hasn't, he needs to step up and do it, because in most cases, he only has a 30 day time limit from the date he was served to file an answer (requesting the relief of genetic testing )otherwise, a default can be taken on him, wherein he will be legally named the father and will have to pay child support....Once paternity has been established, either by court appearance or default, it stays...it's very hard to have a court set aside the adjudication of paternity..Your husband would have to show extrinsic fraud was done in service of the documents...not the past behavior....
Also, note that since your husband has already openly accepted responsiblity of the minor child for the past 15 years and that the child has lived/visited him, he could be held out as the legal dad without a genetic testing...Unfortunately, I have never heard of a law where your husband can go back and sue her for the money HE gave her thinking it was his child...He has always had the option of filing documents or suing the mother to establish paternity to make sure the child was his before he gave the money out..good luck

mommyof2
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posted 10-17-2005 11:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mommyof2   Click Here to Email mommyof2     Edit/Delete Message
Paternity Matters

Although DNA testing has cut-down on many of the controversies regarding paternity, there are still many situations where there have been individual injustices.
For instance, many alleged fathers have shown up in Court unaware of their right to request DNA testing; or paternity has been established by default (the father failing to initially show-up to Court).
Years later, even if the alleged father discovered that paternity was established in error, he was generally still 100% legally responsible for all past and current child support. (Ironically, the real father, who might even be living with the mother and child, might have no legal responsibility whatsoever.)

It is extremely important to note that under the new law, there are STRICT TIME DEADLINES in which you must exercise your rights.

This is one of many cases. Although the DNA test may show that your husband is not the father he will still be liable.

This article was in the Minneapolis (Minnesota) Star Tribune Tuesday/March7/1995
He is not the father, but must pay support
Court: Limitations period ran out.
A Ramsey County man must continue paying child support for a 5 year old child even though paternity tests show that he is not the father, the Minnesota Court of Appeals has ruled.
Eric Dembly Jr. and Ann Christine DeGrande signed a document when the child was born in August 1989 saying that he was the father, His child support was increased to $157 a month as his income rose.
In January 1993, Dembly requested a blood test because DeGrande had told him that he was not the child's father, court records say. The tests concluded that Dembly was not the father.
But in a 2-1 ruling to be filed today, the court said Dembly is still liable for child support because he did not take the blood test until after the three year statute of limitations had expired.
The above is a hand-transcription of the first few paragraphs of this story which had an ASSOCIATED PRESS byline.
[start my comments] I saw the guy on the local news last night. He said that the mother has not allowed him to see the child for over a year.

kedcse
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posted 12-09-2005 11:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for kedcse     Edit/Delete Message
Mommyof2 provided an excellent article on the subject of paternity and how it affects a man once it is established..
I inadvertantly left out another way paternity can be established and that is through a declaration signed by both parties..It's a binding contract that essentially states each party agrees the man is the biological father........When the forms are signed, each party usually has a specific time frame to rescind it(in writing), but once that time period has lapsed, paternity is legally and absolutely established..Most states are starting to adopt a Declaration of paternity, unfortunatly, many of men sign it and really aren't the father...they are just trying to do the right thing by accepting the issue of them being the father for name sake...They just don't understand the ramifications or consequences it can have in the long run(it also does a lot of good too for other reasons)..

As in the article, adjudication of paterntiy was set prior to him taking the genetic test and if the court doesn't set aside a previous adjudication of paternity, then the guy is stuck. It won't matter how many genetic tests he completes, he will always be held out to be the LEGAL father. I have seen this happen in many cases where I work..Law is not moral.

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