posted 07-08-2005 08:53 AM         

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My ex pays no support, he is $13,000 in arrears with our 7 year old son. He also has a daughter that just turned 18 he didn't pay support on. He decided to be selfish and call the state to demand they not take cs out of his check from his new job for her because she is now 18. (He owed $27,000)

He has a new wife, a new baby, a brand new home they built, two vehicle payemnts etc etc.

The state put a freeze on their accounts and they now have a negative balance of -27,000.00.

I feel bad for the family, his wife has worked for the same company most of her life and she is the only one that worked hard for anything they had. He just leeched off of her and didnt' work. He just started this job two weeks ago and thought they would stop garnishing wages on his daughter. SURPRISE. It does catch up sooner or later.

He has our son for the summer and just asked me to come take him this weekend for his birthday casue they can't afford to do anything for him now. Their marriage was on the rocks anyway, i'm sure she will get smart and split.

Karma....

posted 07-10-2005 07:44 PM         

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That's the sad part, his wife had impecable credit, he on the other hand did not. I believe the only thing in his name is the truck, he was trying to be smart about things and not have any real assets, but they made the "mistake" of having joint checking accounts. Any accounts with his name on them are fair game no matter who put the money in there.

Now she is stuck with a huge mortgage, another child, no money in the bank and a loser that won't work.

posted 11-03-2005 11:58 AM         

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Update - it has caught up with him on our son as well, the judge filed contempt charges for $15000.00 + in arrearages and we go to court in December sometime. He has been paying support since he got a new job in late August, sees his son first third and fifth and he is incredibly angry the attorney filed charges. The way he sees it is he is getting what he wants and I am currently getting support - so what is the problem?

They still have frozen accounts, he can't even open a new checkign account. He says they are losing their house (which come to find out he lied about buying it, they are leasing it). the man can't keep his stories straight and things are finally catching up to him. I always wondered how long he would get away scott free with all of this!

posted 11-03-2005 06:42 PM         

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bonkers: that is good to know. I am just a bit confused though when you said that the state froze his accounts and he now has a $27,000 negative balance..My understanding is that when someone owes child support, their name is submitted to the banking institutions by the child support agency & matched against their social security numbers. When a match is made between name and SS#, a lien is put out against the money already in the account. It doesn't matter if the person is an owner or sub owner, but they cannot take money that's not in the account and make him in debt. So I was just wondering how you received the info about the frozen bank account. See this is another way in which those who don't want to pay, will someday be surprised..I also believe that now if the state has both of his cases open for his support obligations, the account with current support will be paid first, then the account with the arrears only(for the child who emancipated) will receive the left over, if any.

A lot of times though the payor of support will tell the other party things like this for sympathy reasons, possibly in hopes the other party will call the support agency and request the money not be lifted from the bank..don't be fooled, for someone who is in arrears because they never paid their support and lived off other people don't deserve the kindness, and nor does the person that enabled that person to act that way..His wife new what he was up too...

posted 11-03-2005 08:59 PM         

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that is a good question. I had wondered about that my self. He apparently cannot close the account, but I know for a fact he is not depositing money into the account becasue he made an excuse of "losing all of his check money" and that was why he couldn't pay anything part of last month. (he simply cashes his check and he supposedly lost the cash envelope)

I dont know if they can actually put a negative balance or not. Doesn't seem they could. But it also seems they would just close it if they were allowed to. Id on't know, maybe I will find out more in mediation.

Like i said though, the man can't keep his lies straight, so I don't ever know what to believe...

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