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Bluebird Member |
posted 11-21-2005 06:25 AM
  
I knew this was coming. My daughter has gone for the week to CA with her dad and here I am alone for the week and into Thanksgiving weekend. It is the strangest feeling.... I have no family. I will going with a girlfriend and her husband to her parent's for Thanksgiving dinner. I know she means well... and I like her a lot, but I can't escape this empty feeling. I feel like such a tag-along. I'll be following them there alone in my car.... and driving home alone and spending the entire weekend alone. Alone. Alone. Is there anyone else out there in this situation? Everywhere I go people have plans with their big families. Now both my parents are gone and I'm an only child. I guess there are worse things than aloneness, but this so hard. The reality of how alone I really am is just overwhelming. Except for my precious daughter, there is no one. I thank God I'll have her here with me for Christmas. Thanks for listening. |
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JAYJAY Member |
posted 11-21-2005 10:07 AM
My heart went out to you when i read this, i am lucky i have family around and my daughter only sees her father one day every two weeks, i cant even start to think how you must be feeling. Use the time to think about you and do things |
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Bluebird Member |
posted 11-21-2005 05:41 PM
JayJay, Thanks so much for responding. And, I'm really all right. It's just so strange... to have so few, well really no, relatives around for the holidays. I used to be so miserable with my snobbish in-laws, so I don't miss that. But, I do miss my mother. I guess I need to count my blessings.... I am alive and here. She wanted to be, but it wasn't to be. I'll be all right... and I do appreciate your words. |
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JAYJAY Member |
posted 11-22-2005 12:01 AM
I was thinkinhg about you today, and how about making this christmas really wonderfull , i am sure that you always do, but how about making it so special for you and your daughter that hopefully you won`t feel to sad about the people who are missing. It is always a time for thoughts like that. Lots of silly games and old fashion christmas fun. -x-x- |
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DianeB Member |
posted 11-22-2005 08:10 AM
Yes, I am in the same situation as you. Just me and my daughters, no relatives, no friends close enough to spend holiday time with. I've spent several holidays alone. It was very difficult. This year, I'm working a night shift job and I have to work Thanksgiving and Christmas. So it's like a double whammy. My kids will have to put up with me being tired and needing to sleep. I've used a lot of my alone time on personal and/or spiritual growth. But I've been alone for six years now! I keep asking God, how much more growth are you looking for here?! (I'm counting on him having a sense of humor, and patience with my impatience.) So, while you're alone, just remember, you're not alone in your aloneness!! I don't know about you, but it helps me tremendously to know that I'm not the only one that's suffering from tremendous loneliness. |
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Bluebird Member |
posted 11-22-2005 05:30 PM
It's funny...well not, but yes. Sometimes I feel like one of those characters in a movie. There's always a heroine with no family.... she's this mysterious, beautiful (lol), independent thing with absolutely no family. They seem so alluring in the movies. I guess it's about inner strength, faith.... and a good sense of humor. I do find myself thinking, "Thank God I don't have to deal with so-and-so, or clean up that horrendous mess. So, I am trying to see the bright side of things. I am staying very busy. I just seem to stand on the outside of my life and look in and am amazed at the lack of relatives. I'm sure there are those who envy the freedom to some degree, right? |
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jwg_yqr Member |
posted 11-22-2005 07:47 PM
I'm sorry you're feeling so alone during the holiday. I think it has more to do with Paris being gone than with having no other family around. When Emerson is gone, I'm lost too. As far as envying the freedom of no family, for me no because I don't have much family - in reality only my parents and my son - so I find myself longing for extended family as well. |
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shawn single dad |
posted 11-22-2005 11:04 PM
23 weeks pregnant explains A LOT  |
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Bluebird Member |
posted 11-23-2005 04:27 PM
Richard, Yes, friends have asked me to join them, and I have plans for tomorrow. In turn, they're joining us for dinner here on Christmas Day! I tried getting a group together at my house for Thanksgiving, but everyone had plans. Christmas is a little easier... more people stay home. I'm working on having a full house that day. |
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Bluebird Member |
posted 11-27-2005 10:50 AM
Thank you everyone for your support during Thanksgiving week. It was hard with my daughter being away and I guess it being the anniversary of my mother's death just magnified the feeling of loneliness. It's very strange once both your parents have passed away, and I'm an only child. As happy as I generally am, the lack of relatives hurts at times. I enjoyed Thanksgiving with my girlfriend's family. Then, I spent the weekend decorating the house for Christmas and otherwise being very lazy. JayJay-- I like your approach... and we do make Christmas very special. Paris arrived home last night. There was so much hugging and sharing before bed! She came to me over and over for hugs and love.... so happy to be home. |
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