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lexiesmom Member |
posted 10-03-2005 03:11 PM
 
Well, I thought about what you all said about geting out there and trying dating, and well I decided I am not ready to "date" but it made me actually think about a few things in my life and many things that need to be changed. Starting with my faith. Times in my life it has been so strong and lately it sucks! I am terrified about dating, moving, grad school, everything! ANd if I was really trusting him I know I wouldn't be afraid. I started to realize that I am not getting what I need out my church, partly because of me but partly because of the church. I don't feel a connection to the pastors, I dont' feel a strong connection to the women in class. Lex likes her sunday shcool teacher, but few people sign and rarely are the service signed. Which it is a large church with over 2000 members and they can afford to have an interpreter. But since there isnt one she is now the only deaf child inthe group. There are very few people my age, or who are single parents so I am never comfotable on the singles events. You alway feel like it is a matchimaking service so you are no longer a single member instead of being a time to have fun and get out. So today I started looking at other churches. I think I found one we are going to try on SUnday. THere is a deaf pastor and several thingsfor singles and single parents also for parents with deaf children.SO I am going to give it a try maybe getting out in groups will help me feel comfortable getting out there when I move next summer. PS I think part of what may have been freaking me out with him is he is a psychologist, and I don't want to analyzed I analye myself enough. A nice business guy or somehting else other than psychology maybe it would have been a different answer. |
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cgracec Member |
posted 10-11-2005 07:05 PM
How are things going? |
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lexiesmom Member |
posted 10-12-2005 01:23 AM
Well............ We didnt go to the new church last weekend. I heard some really bad things from people I trust, that it has a "cult" feel to it, and after looking at some photos of the members i got a not so good feeling, all the kids are dressed up in the suits and ties, and Lex is used to showing up to our church youth meetings in whatever she wants. I was going to go back to our church Sunday but, got a phone call late Sat. that one of the other supervisors father had a heart attack so I went to work for her that day. After feeling so disconnected I got two surprising emails, that reminds He is watching down and caring for me. One of the pastors at church sent me an email to say he had been thinking about us and hoped to see and see how things were going and my womens group mentor who I hadn't talked to in months sent me a email to set up a coffee date so it kind of pushed me to give our church another chance and well if it doesn't work then we are moving next summer! |
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cgracec Member |
posted 10-12-2005 06:55 PM
Sometimes we just hit a rough spot and need to explore the possibility of change. It could be that is where you are at. I have been going to a church that is about 30 minutes away and recently tried a new church closer to home. The church is OK but there isn't anything for single/divorced adults. Most of the congregation is married, older and retired, or college/high school age. So I am still looking for a church a little closer to home so I can be more involved. This is one of those little challenges I mentioned in an earlier post. However, this too will work out eventually. God works on his own time not mine so I just need a little more faith and patience. |
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