posted 02-04-2004 08:43 AM            

...enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own even if she never wants or needs to.

...something perfect to wear if the employer or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour.

...a youth she's content to leave behind.

...a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to retelling it in her old age.

...a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra.

...one friend who always makes her laugh...and one who lets her cry.

...a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family.

...eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a recipe for a meal that will make her guests feel honored.

...a feeling of control over her destiny.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

...how to quit a job, break up with her lover, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.

...when to try harder..and when to walk away.

...that she can't change the length of her calves, the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents.

...that her childhood may not have been perfect..but it's over.

...what she would or wouldn't do for love or more.

...how to live alone..even if she doesn't like it.

...whom she can trust, whom she can't, and why she shouldn't take it personally.

...where to go..be it her best friend's kitchen table..or a charming inn in the woods.. when her soul needs soothing.

...what she can and can't accomplish in a day..a month..and a year.