posted 11-17-2005 05:04 PM            

I certainly have my share of extra pounds, but I've never been a stress eater. I just eat too much of the dinners I cook!

I don't have a lot of insight into this problem, but I do know someone who does... Oprah. I've subscribed to her magazine for 2 years and have to say that she offers tremendous support and insight into this problem. She might have something that speaks to your heart.

posted 11-17-2005 06:03 PM            

As for loosing weight, use small plates when serving your portions and break your meal down to 6 meals a day. I always drink water with every meal with the exception of an occasional glass of wine or cranberry juice during dinner. Don’t focus on your weight but rather your health. Your health is more important than anything else.

Get involved in some sort of sport. I have had moms’ on my basketball team who are in there 50 and over weight that have went down 2 pant sizes, and are feeling great as well as looking great! There confidence level has risen.

I have never had a weight problem but that doesn’t mean I don’t know what you are going through, I have two sisters who have always had weight problems. Most important you have to stop feeling sorry for yourself, find a friend who you can depend on to give you some tough love. List all your problems on paper and tackle them one at a time.

When dealing with your finances ask yourself what can I do differently to make my money stretch, then do it! Learn to be frugal it really helps, I recycle and at the end of each month I use that money to pay for my son’s hair cut, and buy us lunch. I just saved myself $30. I sell snacks at my job, with the money I get I use it to pay for my children’s school lunches I just save myself another $40. That’s a total of $70 a month on just those two things. I actually enjoy finding new ways to save money.

Make your troubles your personal challenge and be determined to find a way out of your financial wows and problem solve how you can improve your personal life and health and emotional well being. Make “I CAN DO IT!” your motion.

posted 11-18-2005 05:16 PM            

Also, thanks for the suggestions on how I can make things better. I know it has to start within me and I will definitely start on a TO DO LIST.

posted 11-19-2005 12:52 AM         

I always say that if? and when i get to
heaven, he will make me sit in a corner
and not say a word as he is know doubt
so sick of the sound of my voice talking to
him all the time he will want some peace
and quiet lol.

I have a saying thats goes, "i hope i am in heaven half an hour before the devil knows i am dead" lol.

god bless, -x-x-

posted 11-19-2005 08:52 AM            

I too am a stress eater. The advise about not buying junk food is key. I try to keep fresh fruits in the house at all times and eat them whenever I need a quick fix. Just by doing that this year, I've dropped 13 pounds. Unfortunatly, I've had some insane amounts of stress in my life the last two months and have started munching again.

This morning I threw out the last bit of chips. I've gained back 3 pounds and I know if I keep it up, I'll gain the rest. The only bad thing about that, is that eating is like a nicotine fix. For the first week or two, I'm going to be a bit of grouch because my comfort munching is gone - Grrr!

Anyway, it sounds like you are on the right track and that God working to help you fix the things that you need to fix! Come back and chat with us often!

Blessings,

Deb

posted 11-22-2005 05:24 PM            

I know I just breeze through here with these quick responses, but I am thinking of you otherwise!

Changing these patterns take a lot of support, resolve, and resources. You have the support here, it sounds as if you have the desire, and resources are everywhere.

I guess I'm kind of multi-resource oriented. I am an ex-smoker (quit in 1988) and remember how I had to pull everything together to finally quit for good. Every little bit of inspiration and advice and determination all add up to something doable--- if you'll make the committment to change.

Choosing a healthy lifestyle is about choosing to live longer and better. That is the starting point in any body-health lifestyle change.

I love reading material that inspires me! In addition to Oprah's inspiration, isn't Dr. Phil's book supposed to be really good? I don't lean toward mass media.... unless it is of value. I think these 2 have something powerful to say. Again, the information is there for the taking. Oprah was very overweight and dealt (and how!!-- look at her now) with her stress-eating challenges.

I hope to hear that you're building your support and resource system to tackle this. As quitting smoking was, it is a choice-- albeit difficult, but a choice all the same.

posted 11-29-2005 12:52 AM            

I messed up terribly bad. I ate some cookies that I know isn't good for my new life I am trying to create, but sometimes we just mess up, which is what makes us human.

So tomorrow, I will start my journey again because I have to do it for my health, peace of mind, and happiness within myself to be able to handle other issues that I am dealing with.

Once again, don't feel bad. We all mess up.

posted 11-29-2005 11:37 AM         

We all mess up at sometime, me more often than not lol.

posted 12-02-2005 01:09 AM            

So Bluebird, stop tasting the food to test the seasoning, eat in a smaller container, drink lots of water, and find something to distract your mind from a second serving.

I still have ways to go and have to control that stress eating because that is what kills me. It is not my cooking because I control how much I intake. It is the cookies, chips, pies, and cakes when I am stressed, but I am determined to keep fighting.

posted 12-02-2005 01:17 AM         

What has happened to will power, when i was younger i had so much will power it
was coming out my ears.
Now i can have it for a while then it has gone.

I tell myself i am older and hopefully wiser
and still the lack of control gets the
better of me. I am in control of every other
area of my life, except my choc addiction.

posted 12-02-2005 07:35 PM            

Thank you-- I think the tasting is a lot of it. That and the portions I serve myself. Oh hell, it's the seconds, too. I just need a complete overhaul program. How about someone else cooking my meals?? That is the best solution I can think of

JAYJAY,

posted 12-03-2005 12:01 AM         

I have heard of patches that should stop the chocolate craving, i have thought of getting some to see if they would help me,

but i know i would only
end up eating the patches.

You know what they say chocolate is better than don`t you believe it, both at the
same time is heaven.