posted 11-03-2005 11:44 AM         

Funny - I am more worried about the house, the kids, the pets, the taxi service I provide to the kids....then the surgery itself. I have known it was coming. I was supposed to have one in 2000, but I was single and young and freshly divorced and didn't want to take away my chances of finding mr right and having a baby girl someday. Well...I'm over that. I have two boys, no hubby or time for anyone in my life! These kids take neough of my time that I couldn't imagine having a baby ever again...Although I am sad the chance is completly taken away...no more babies.....ever...

So, pity party moment over - now - how the heck do I manage this surgery alone? My mother is coming to stay with my kids the day of surgery and will have to leave as soon as she picks me up from the hospital the day after. (hopefully I only have to stay overnight, it is a laproscopic surgery) ) I get dropped off at home fully medicated and BAM, get to heal at home alone. I'm scared about laundry, the dishes, the driving the kids around, getting homework done, everything! I work from home too, so I have only taken a week of vacation and am hoping the company doesn't all find out about the surgery. I hate people doting on me and I like to be self sufficient but I am kinda scared this is not the time to be....now I don't want to do this alone.

OK, just trying to think through everything...I am scared. If I don't/can't do everything, won't the world come crashing down?

posted 11-03-2005 12:22 PM         

It is not until a time like this that
we fully understand how much we do.

I hate it if i am sick because you have to struggle through, when all you
really want to do is just lay back
and feel sorry for yourself.
Wish i was nearer then i could help you out..

God bless. -x-x-

posted 11-03-2005 06:11 PM         

I have thought about freezing the dinners. I MAY let a few people at work know about the surgery, they were overly helpful last year when i had a simple surgery on a broken ankle. They sent a caterer over nightly with dinners for a good two weeks! I know of another lady that had a hysterectomy and they sent caterers and a maid to clean her house.
They are a great company, morelike family than any I have ever seen, but I am afraid to let them know anything because of the timing of this. I just got back from training for three days on implementing a new program I will be administrator to and it is job security for me. If i don't do it, they will replace me with someone that will, even if short term, that still scares me. I'm hoping for a week to heal and then jumping right back into work - and no one will be the wiser.

The kids seem oblivious at this point. I have tried to talk to them about the seriousness of this surgery, but they remember last year when I was up and walking around and doing chores even when told not to. It didn't hurt though, (my broekn ankle) so I listened to my body, this is a very different case and I know I will need help whther I like it or not.

Plus, I'm just scared of doing this alone. Emotionally I am losing my female parts, it sucks. I wonder about all the little things, the long term effects, the side effects, the surgery effects, teh scarring, the sex (whenever that happens again). Etc....I feel like i am losing so much of myself.

My seven year old comes into my bed at night at some point every night, I don't even wake up anymore until he kicks me in the belly or the face. I'm scared that he will do this, and scared to force him to NOT come into my bed. He has fears of being upstairs away from me at night. I won't be able to carry his 76 pounds upstairs either!

there is just sooo much. I feel overwhelmed and alone.

posted 11-03-2005 08:19 PM            

I've had several laparoscopic surgeries. The incisions are teeny-tiny and don't really hurt at all. You'll be tired, though, like the wind has really been knocked out of you. Just take it easy for a while. These surgeries were a LOT easier than my knee sprain was... and will probably be easier than your broken ankle was!

As for never having any babies... hey, if you found Mr. Right and wanted another baby--there's always adoption. We adopted our daughter.

With one ovary left, you might not experience that many side-effects. You'll still be producing those hormones. If you're having this surgery, you're probably experiencing pain now, right? I think you'll just feel better. Just imagine... no more monthly cycle to deal with. And as for sex-- won't that be nice not to have to worry about pregnancy?

Buy some easy-to-prepare foods, clean beforehand-- you'll be just fine. In my area, you can even have groceries delivered for a $10 charge.

Trust me on this-- the anticipation and anxiety is the worst part of this. Try not to worry too much...

posted 11-03-2005 09:04 PM         

Well....it is laproscopic assisted vaginal hysterectomy, I thought I would leave out the vagina part to not make the guys blush on here! :~) So it is three incisions in the belly, where everything is cut off, then everything is yanked through below. I may have a bladder sling and be sent home with a catheter for a while as well. That will be lovely.

posted 11-04-2005 04:11 PM            

You have a week and a half to plan. Do your boys routinely care for the animals now? How about grocery trips-- can you give them a list and wait in the car while they shop? Coach them where you can now. You'll be glad you did. Just take it easy. You're going to be sore in your belly, but I'm still wagering that this will be easier than an ankle fracture. You'll heal faster.

Do you have close girlfriends to help out-- as well as church friends?

Email me if you want to chat. Thinking of you...

posted 11-08-2005 05:51 PM            

Bonkers please let us know how everything goes, wishing you will.

posted 11-17-2005 05:08 AM            

I've been wondering how you're doing and hope things went smoothly and you're home feeling...... better than you expected.