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eternalsunshine Member |
posted 12-06-2004 04:06 PM
  
Hi. I'm new to the boards. I'm 24 and I have 2 girls, ages 5 and 2. I wasn't married when I had my first child. I got married to someone other than her father when she was 2, and had my second baby when she was 3. Now my husband and I are separated for what seems like probably the 20th time literally. I want a divorce too. I am really really depressed, I've been living with my mother and it's hell. I've never felt so unhappy in my life! I can't think of anything that would possibly make me happy either. I know I'm being a big baby right now, but I just can't cope with all this. If anyone out there has any advice, I would very much appreciate it. Thanks, Shannon |
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lexiesmom Member |
posted 12-28-2004 10:32 PM
I knwo it can be rough an dreally depressing. And I know it sounds cliche, but have you thought about seeing a counselor or maybe goign to talk with a pastor at church. Even if you don't go to church they are usually more than happy to take time to sit and listen. A good trick, though it can be hard is to make a list of all that you are thankful for. You may not see many things at first but when you start to list them they really add up. How many times have you lost your keys or has your child forgotten something and then as you are finally on yoiur way to work you pass an accident and realize if you had left five minutes earlier it could have been you. I know how rough it can be, I have been really depressed this year, my little girl left home to go to a residential school for the deaf two hours away so I only see her on the weekends. It is really hard and some days I don't want to get out of bed. But those are the mornings I call a girlfriend (girlfriends are a neccessity!!) and we hit Starbucks or a coffee house and just sepnd some time away from kids and everything. It is good to jsut talk and laugh. Also have you tried journaling? It can be really theraputic, especially when you feel like talking with your friends or mom might be burdening them or you feel like maybe they think you are just whining too much. Whine to your journal it will listen to every problem, and then later you can look back over it and see that what seemed like the end of the world really wasn't so bad. It can add a new perspective. Divorce sucks all the way around. I hope maybe some of this will help, all else fails- turn to CHOCOLATE! erica |
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lkellyhappy1 Member |
posted 01-05-2005 07:38 PM
I had a friend stick a pair of rollerblades on my feet and throw a bike at me when things were really bad. When I work out I work through my problems or forget them entirely. If your body feels good, the depressions tends to lift. Hope it helps, Lee-Ann Just going for walk helps or multiple walks I havent done it in a while, but a yoga tape helps for when you cant get out posted way late sorry [This message has been edited by lkellyhappy1 (edited 01-05-2005).] |
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lexiesmom Member |
posted 01-06-2005 01:03 AM
working out is great for depression!! SOmetimes when you're depressed it's hard to do it but, just walking out the front door helps  |
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surepopfarm Member |
posted 01-10-2005 11:11 PM
Shannon, I don't know what to tell you that will get you over your depression. I am new to these boards too, and going through a mess myself. I do feel like drawing on the Lord has helped me through what I have been enduring these past couple of years. I have some even harder days ahead of me but I know that like all things, they will pass and I will come out on the other side. God has a purpose for me as He has also for you. Right now that purpose is being strong for your children who need and depend on you. You did a good thing by posting here. Don't draw in. Use this board to vent when you need it because the world is full of unjust things. People here will listen to you and likely chime in and say "Go girl!" They will shed a tear with you when you use these boards to cry. They (and I) have cried, too. You have a tough time ahead of you but there are rewards for going through those tough times. I think you have had some good advice already....journaling is a good way to organize your thoughts. I do remember way back 20 some years ago that excercising made me feel GOOD (after it quit hurting). I can't speak personally about counseling but I do know that the right church can really help you in this. Keep writing to us. I think you will find friends here that you can lean on when you need it. |
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pooka Member |
posted 02-11-2005 11:50 PM
i found that when i lived with my mom, at first things were okay but later, she tended to make some of the problems worse. it was like my problems were hers and i was stressed out over worrying about her and her feelings. maybe you can work on being independant again, and making a life for yourself and your kids, i don't know what your relationship is like with your mom but if its good than awesome. than you can work on taking care of yourself and getting control of your life back. You are the master of your own fate. take care and jump on here anytime. as well, maybe check in with your doctor if you are feeling so down you cannot pull out of it. stress does that to a person. |
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