posted 08-30-2010 08:28 AM            

So I'm a single Dad to a wonderful, georgeous five year old daughter. She's lived with her mom since we split up six years ago. It was an ugly breakup, and even uglier battle getting the mom to agree on a set schedule to spend time with my child. But long story short, a court-ordered visitation schedule is set.

Over the years I've been able to get the mom to modify the court ordered schedule between us in order to include more time with the baby. Originally it was stipulated that I'd get her Wednesdays from 5 to 9, but ever since switching jobs that was not possible anymore. After some fierce fighting, I got her mom to agree Wednesday at 5 to Thursday morning at 630. We also agreed to additional schedule changes or additions between us, not involving the court, but again.. After some wheeling and dealing.

Now I've hit a brick wall with the baby's mom again. I want to take the baby traveling from time to time. When she was younger I understood her mom with regards to not taking her on a plane anywhere. She was too little. Now she's five, so she's much more autonomous and less risky to take anywhere. Except when I asked, I get a flat and absolute no. On the same token, now her mom is also making plans to take the baby to Florida on vacation, and I'm supposed to just agree.

I don't plan to travel out of the country, in case anyone wonders whether I intend in flying somewhere that has no extradition treaties. I simply want to visit my sister in Chicago for a week if not less. Also, I am one of those fathers who believes his child needs both her parents, not just me or her only.

I've approached her about this topic three times so far. I've threatened to come back to court and work this out with the court referee. Before she refused to let me take the baby traveling the last time, she was to ask her mom for advice on the matter (like her mom's take on this would matter but that's another subject).

I'm usually diplomatic when dealing with her mom. Often times I'll work out a schedule to acommodate the baby's mom for when she wishes to take her to special occasions, though usually when I ask I'm often refused. I'm confused as to where the stupidity is coming from. This can't have anything to do with regards to wanting to be back with me, it's already been six years and I know she's moved on with other men.