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rubyviolet New Member |
posted 09-14-2009 03:02 PM
 
I am 35 wks pregnant with my first child. My child's father and I broke up one month into my pregnancy. I have hardly spoken to him, and when I do hear from him....it is always something negative or mean. He is an active alcoholic and drug addict. He is living with his current girlfriend (who is also his ex) and also a drug addict/alcoholic. She has threatened me, called my unborn baby names, damaged my car, and tried to attack me. The father has not provided any support...emotional or otherwise. All of the sudden, yesterday he demands that he get shared custody of our son...and if not, then he is leaving the state and will have nothing to do with our child. I would not trust my child having visitation with the two of them, let alone shared custody. He says that if I don't agree to shared custody, then not to put his name on the birth certificate. I have already been considering this. He is living off of unemployment anyway, so I wouldn't get much child support....and any extra penny that they do have goes to crack and alcohol. Neither one of them can get their electric turned on in their names, so I was being nice and left it in my name for almost this entire year. I guess I'm just looking for advice. I think that he only wants shared custody so that he isn't ordered to pay child support...and so that he has control over the situation. I just don't trust them to take care of my child and I don't trust him to follow normal visitation rules. I'm just very confused and don't know what to do. I would appreciate any advice or thoughts on the situaion. |
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MamaShell New Member |
posted 09-14-2009 09:57 PM
DO NOT LET THIS MAN BULLY U INTO SHARED CUSTODY! I agree with u...he just doesn't want 2 pay CS. I don't think ur son would be safe with drug and alcohol abusers. If u need the CS, u can always go to ur county DHR & file 4 support there. They will collect it 4 u and u will not have 2 deal with this jerk unless u want 2. It also has nothing 2 do with custody, ur ex would have 2 get a lawyer 2 do that. And I don't think most judges would allow someone with his problems 2 have unsupervised visits with the child. He has a financial obligation 2 this baby whether he likes it or not! But if u don't want 2 deal with it all, then don't. Plenty of women take care of their children w/o the support of the child's father! Take care & God Bless U and ur baby!! ------------------ |
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