 UBBFriend: Email This Page to Someone! |
 Single Parents Online Chat Boards
 The Ex is driving me crazy
 Never enough
|
| next newest topic | next oldest topic |
| Author | Topic: Never enough |
|
duchess New Member |
posted 08-13-2009 08:38 PM
  
We've been terminally divorced for eighteen years. We have two sons 22 and 11. Yes,I admit there was some insanity where I,not could he, leave well enough alone. Which lead to having two sons. Even now when as summer ends I made the final 'are you going to spend anytime w/your son this summer' call it is never enough. The tone of voice, the implication that I still belong to him. I've always been second or third. I defined myself for the past 18 years as a single mom, happily divorce. I am so not happy. It just isn't enough. I want a life. He has a life (5 wives since me and 3 other kids). Why can't I give myself permission to have a life? My oldest is moving to another state;starting his career and life. My youngest is needing me less and less. I realize I have put everything on hold because my ex hasn't released me. Well I've had enough. Not sure what to do...but I'm going to figure it out. I'm still young, I'm beautiful, I work hard and I am enough. |
|
MamaShell Member |
posted 09-14-2009 10:25 PM
Sounds 2 me like u have figured out what u need 2 do, u just don't know how 2 do it. I felt the same way for yrs after splitting with my ex. I finally realized that my kids needed me 2 be ME. Not some bored stiff shell of a woman that their dad had left behind. My ex cheated on me constantly. We we split the first time he begged me to give it another try. I did bcuz I wanted him 2 be a part of my son's life. Then I became pregnant with our daughter. I stayed with him (even though by then I couldn't stand the way he treated me) so our kids would have their dad. Then I realized one day that he wasn't going to change and he was just making me crazy. I would take my frustrations out on my children. It was after a meltdown with my son one day that I decided my sanity was worth more than the kids dad being around. After all, if mama ain't happy ain't nobody happy! The kids are now 13 and 9 and hardly ever see or talk to their dad. And that's fine bcuz mama loves herself and loves those kids enough for the two of us. We r finally starting to enjoy our lives again. U just have to cut ties with him and do things for urself. Ur kids will be fine. And u will too. Live ur life and show ur kids that u know how to enjoy life. It's a valuable lesson! Hope this helps. Good luck & God Bless! ------------------ |
All times are CT | next newest topic | next oldest topic |
  |
|
© 2000-2009 Single Parents Online Network
Powered by: Ultimate Bulletin Board, Version 5.44a
Resources of Shared Experiences by Single Parents for Single Parents
© Infopop Corporation (formerly Madrona Park, Inc.), 1998 - 2000.