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 Before my battle begins *a cry out to those experienced!*
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Jessica27 Member |
posted 09-09-2008 08:35 AM
  
Hi. Sorry in advance if this is long. I read alot of ur posts before joining and am scared but also relieved to know I can obtain words from the wise. I am about to have a little girl and the father has told me right out he doesnt want to help or know the child. He left me in the first trimester for his current girlfriend who possibly sells drugs. So does he I just found out. They are both on probation and living together about to marry after only knowing each other well about two months. The rest of my pregnancy they have both been in and out of jail. At first I said good riddance, my daughter deserves better but also she has the right to know her father. I havent heard from him or his family in two months. They are from Palestine and his mom and dad and siblings recently moved back. Only his brother remains here in Louisiana who owns a beauty supply store here in my town so I have reason to believe he is still here. Also his 'fiancee' wouldnt relocate to Palestine so.... My question is im thinking of filing for c.sup but if he moves to Palestine should I just forget it? And if him and his bride to be are in the drug game should I just forget it all together for the safety of my baby? Also if i decide to pursue c.sup with him being on 3 years of probation will that make it easier to find him. I know her addy too but dont know if they still live there. Help! |
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mags50 Member |
posted 11-28-2008 11:43 PM
Hire a lawyer ASAP and have your ex's parental rights terminated. If he takes her to Palestine, you will probably never see her again. You won't need child support if she's abducted, or worse, hurt. If you don't have any cash, check with Legal Aide. Do something before it's too late. |
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Jessica27 Member |
posted 11-29-2008 01:39 PM
Thank you so much mags...Ive actually talked with him since I posted that topic and him and his girlfriend are living together in TX and he says he wants nothing to do with the child, so I do still feel it is in my best interest to terminate his rights because when I asked him what would you be willing to do for your little girl he said id come keep her for the summer, um....no im not turning over my daughter to him and his felony having girlfriend for a whole summer so your advice is still very good and im using it.  |
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mags50 Member |
posted 11-29-2008 06:31 PM
Thanks....17 years of single parenthood has taught me more than I thought I'd ever need to know. Good luck and enjoy your life with your kiddo. They're off to college before we know it and take all of our money with them! |
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kimber72 Member |
posted 12-01-2008 08:40 PM
I am not sure what state you live in, but getting parental rights terminated is going to be very costly, and difficult. At best you might get supervised visitation. In addition, do not make any rash decisions. Reading other posts of Mags, it sounds like she is still bitter over her seperation. I cetainly am not going to listen to her reply to a post I posted almost 6 months ago. It is not even relevant in my life anymore. Every child needs to know who their parents are (good or bad). Yes! you need to protect them. But protecting and isolating them are completely different things. You need to do what is best for your daughter and pushing her father away MAY not be the answer. I have a friend of mine whose ex kidnapped 4 children and took them to Holland. It took her 3 years to get them back, but she did. She "protected" them and they are choosing on thier own not to see thier dad. If your ex is chosing not to see the child and is willing to give you full custody, then that is good news! Especially if it does not have to involve the court system. [This message has been edited by kimber72 (edited 12-01-2008).] |
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purple Member |
posted 12-13-2008 08:08 PM
Make sure you know your rights. [This message has been edited by purple (edited 01-14-2009).] |
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Jessica27 Member |
posted 12-15-2008 12:50 PM
thank you so much for your reply...last thing to happen is im on speaking terms great ones with his family and they want to take part but everyone is cautioning me because they live in palestine but i can say right now im not taking my baby over there but when they visit the states they are more than welcome to see her under my supervision. as for the father, he tells his family he will be there for the child but hasnt called me in two weeks im due for csection surgery in 4 days, it is rumored his current gf is pregnant hes told his mother he is working and ive spoken with his probation officer he left our state of louisiana without permission so if he is ever found or to come back here he will serve the rest of his probation term two years. i have his address and if things get ugly i will be more than happy to give it to his probate officer. i want him to be a part of her life but he is not stable and youre right until he proves that i have to be careful. |
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purple Member |
posted 12-15-2008 02:06 PM
Make the very best of your life for the child's sake. [This message has been edited by purple (edited 01-14-2009).] |
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