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oaodiva Member |
posted 03-14-2008 08:18 PM
 
I know there are other people in similar situations and I am just looking for others who can be encouraging. Basically, I am a 22 yr old single mom of a beautiful 4 month old. I love my daughter and have been blessed to have a supportive family who has been so helpful. But I can't help but feel hatred towards my daughter's father. He was a coward from the moment he found out I was pregnant. He put me through so much stress, one week telling me he is going to be there...the next week saying it's not his baby. He missed her birth after threatening me that he had better be allowed in the room. He didn't answer his phone that night and claimed that he "couldn't find his phone". The only reason he came to the hospital was cuz he thought he could get a dna test done there and when he found out he couldn't he left. As of now he has seen her maybe 3 times over the past 4 months and bought a whole 1 box of diapers. It's not even the fact that he is not around. But he keeps on promising things and not doing anything to help. And when I say something he makes it out like I"m the bad guy and he is the damn victim. I know that my daughter has everything she needs and I am happy, but I can't help but want revenge. I just get so angry when I think of how disrespectful he has been to me and what he put me through. I want my daughter to have a relationship with him, but he is so inconsistent and is constantly making up excuses about why he can't come see her. The past 3 weeks he's been "sick" and I haven't heard from him except for a coupld emails telling me he is still sick. I just don't believe it. It'd be easier if he would just go away. It's like when he is in the mood to be there he expects me to bend over backwards. And when he doesn't feel like playing daddy I'm supposed to just accept that? I'm just frustrated and feeling so confused. |
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shawn single dad |
posted 03-18-2008 11:57 AM
You are doing what you can, stay strong and follow my motto to pray and persevere, and you will. Hopefully he'll come around, but you can't make him grow up. But you can take steps to protect you and your daughter's interests by getting a parenting plan with visitation and child support. Perhaps she is too young and he is too immature to want anything too permanent right now visitation wise, but eventually for your own sanity and for her stability you will need this. peace and love to you and your daughter |
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oaodiva Member |
posted 03-18-2008 04:37 PM
Thanks for your support. I am in the process of filing for child support, just waiting on the slow state. And I will def look into full custody b/c he doesn't deserve any. |
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wandadave79 New Member |
posted 03-28-2008 11:23 PM
From experience. Just move on. I know at 22 you think you want "daddy" involved, and you want your child to know her daddy. But if he isn't going to be a good influence on your child why would you put her through it? Believe me someday you will find Mr. Wonderful and you will be glad that your daughter won't be in the middle of a donor and a man who truely wants to be there for her. Spare yourself - you can be what your child needs. |
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