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jenahoover Member |
posted 12-29-2006 12:49 PM
  
Well, today my ex is telling me about how he is opening his new business(car lot) next week. I asked him if he would need me to continue to pick her up since it didn't sound like he was going to have time for her. He says after he picks her up from school, he's just going to bring her there so he can continue to work! I don't know what to do anymore. I don't think it's right and I feel like my hands are tied. She should be at home with her family instead of some car lot! Around people she doesn't knows. She's only 3! |
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Bluebird Member |
posted 12-29-2006 10:37 PM
How does he plan to work (at a CAR lot) with a 3-year-old in tow? Who is going to watch her? I'd be uncomfortable, too. It doesn't sound like he's thinking responsibly. |
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sandra Member |
posted 01-03-2007 02:27 PM
i would not agree to that, it's good to cooperate with the ex, but not when it is something that is not good for her. At 3 yrs old, it is surprising he would see no issue with having her hang around a car lot, once in a while for a short time is one thing, but every day after preschool ? (if I'm understanding it correctly).... can you bring that up to him, that it's not fair to her, there's probably a real safety issue, all kinds of potential hazards around, and what is she supposed to do? I dont think court is a good way to go on things most the time, but if it came to that, I dont think any judge would say have your toddler hang out at a car lot, and you wouldnt have much trouble persuading a judge of that!! |
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leigh1517 Member |
posted 01-13-2007 09:09 AM
I think you should write all of these incidents down and date them. I've heard that helps if you decide to take him to court. Record everything! |
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lyineyes68 New Member |
posted 01-28-2007 04:08 PM
One thing that I've learned being divorced, how my ex spends his time with our children is really NOT my business. Unless it's something detrimental to their health or they are at risk of being injured, it's up to him to spend his time wisely or not. Eventually, even at 3yrs old, your child will learn who their father is through how he spends that time. Obviously, it won't be quality time. ------------------ Ada |
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Bluebird Member |
posted 01-28-2007 07:06 PM
Ada, I respectfully disagree. To me, emotional wellbeing falls under the health category. The emotional damage parents often cause have much more lasting effects than most physical illnesses. I think that bringing a string of lovers to the house is reckless and dangerous-- in a safety sense and a health sense. What if mom's boyfriend is a molester? What if dad's girlfriend is verbally abusive or emotionally cold to the children? These situations are very common for single parents. I think we have to stay involved and concerned over our children's welfare when they're visiting the other parent. Lord knows what could be going on that doesn't involve the literal spilling of blood and guts. |
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