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frustrated New Member |
posted 11-18-2006 10:51 AM
  
Court started four years ago and my daughter is five at this time, my ex has dragged me in and out of court i have had to juggle school-three kids-household chores-home assesment and a part time job. We have a court hearing coming up in December(nice Christmas present hey) well my older children have gone threw so much watching their younger sister be pulled into pieces that at one point they were acting out at school.....this has changed. But my ex is trying to prove that i am unfit to raise our daughter-reasons cause i am a single parent and i cant always be perfect. Things in my life have changed i am engaged to be married and we are expecting, i graduated college. But he still tries to prove me unfit. My soon to be husband and i agreed to go to counselling to intergrate his children and my children. I am left asking myself what is it that makes a perfect parent and how can the courts allow custody to drag out for so many years. Does my ex have to run out of money befor custody is dealt with? Where in all of this is it heathy for all of our children to go throught court for so many years. Why is there not inforced counselling for both parents? |
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MommyMo Member |
posted 11-20-2006 09:27 PM
I just wanted to say that it is really ridiculous that the court does allow things to drag on. Why? They don't care. Your child and mine are simply docket numbers. Its really sad. I lived my whole summer in the court house. Its like some kind of sick game to my daughters father. And to top it off I can't even relocate to another state because of his stupidity. Just had to get that off my chest. |
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sandra Member |
posted 12-13-2006 06:52 PM
if it helps any, as your kids get older, your ex will be able to do less and less- and they will have more of a say. In the meantime, it is very damaging and disrupting to their and your lives. get a very aggressive attorney, and see if you can get him to agree to some sort of acceptable arrangement, FOR THE KIDS SAKE. If he keeps this up, they will not want much to do w/ him anyways when theyre older, and will resent him for ruining their lives. IS there any possible way if you have a mediator or attorney, or neutral third party to sit down with both of you, and help him see that this is HURTING his kids, and for their sake, will he agree to some sort of acceptable visits and then stay out of court. SOmetimes there is something you can 'bargain' with, with a crazy or controlling ex, to get them to agree to stay out of court-- such as offering him summer vacations with the kids and Christmas Day, (you get Eve), or something like that, so that he feels he is 'getting' alot- men like that are mostly concerned with what they can get, so you have to make them think they are getting a good deal, - ultimately, it is really best for the kids for you guys to stay out of court. I have a crazy/controlling ex, who never moved on w/ his own life, friends, job, etc. he is very revengeful and seems to love going to court at times. I still kick myself for marrying him- but the good thing that came out of it was our daughter, but i know firsthand the damage court does. Also, i have learned that you really can't fully trust the courts to protect the kids best interest- that's a whole other post in istself!! |
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