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motwgk Member |
posted 10-04-2006 11:14 AM
  
How do you handle it when your ex tries to get a change to the parenting plan by involving your children? Not talking to you first, but setting the expectations of the kids that somethiing's going to change? My ex has recently moved further away. He wants to change the time we meet to later in the evening, so he has more afternoon time with our daughter. She's in second grade. I want her home so she can get her homework done (doesn't get done at his place), get her reading done (doesn't get done at his place), and can wind down and get ready for bed. He has told her that he wants her for another 30 minutes because they now live so far away. Most of their afternoons involve her watching television and his working on his computer. It doesn't involve schoolwork. It doesn't involve much in the way of productive interaction. What I don't like is his using her, putting her in the middle, setting her expectations that something will change when he hasn't even approached me. What do you do when this happens? Do you ignore it? Do you confront him? Thanks in advance... |
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Bluebird Member |
posted 10-04-2006 06:15 PM
This has happened to me. My ex manipulates visitation at will, according to his whims. If it interferes with my daughter's homework or social plans she's already made, I tell him so and refuse his plans. Then again, we don't have a legal visitation arrangement. Even if we did, I think I'd have to stand my ground for her best interests. Your ex is being completely selfish to ask for a 30-minute later evening on school nights. I'd tell him no way. |
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