posted 09-19-2006 02:41 PM         

My ex has been married before making me his second ex-wife. We have been divorced for 3 months now and he recently told me that he is seeing his ex-wife (number one) again. It really doesn't bother me that he dates...I wish him happiness...the part that bothers me is that I don't think that he is thinking about his kids. He has a child from his first marriage with her, and we have a child together as well. We spent the better part of our relationship trying to get full custody of the child from his first marriage because of the type of mother she was (or wasn't more accurately). I don't want to subject my child to that kind of scenario. However, if I bring this to him, I think that he will believe that I am just jealous that they are back together...which is not the case. My concern lies in my child's well-being.

posted 09-19-2006 03:01 PM            

You can't control your ex's behavior. At all. So save yourself the grief. (Of course, my background is with a very controlling, manipulative person who is also paranoid about everything I say and do - and what I don't say and don't do. So I've had to quit trying to "fix" and "help" the other person.)