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sweetchx2131 Member |
posted 06-23-2006 09:15 AM
 
My ex and I were doing very good. I'm from Ohio, butI lived in North Carolina with him by his military base. I was planning to stay there until he deployed to Iraq. Before I had moved down there, he came up to meet my family and that's when we conceived. When he had left, he took most of my stuff down and I followed a week later with the rest of my stuff. We were doing wonderful and our relationship was getting better each day we were together. That's until the day I took a pregnancy test and found out we were pregnant. He didn't think I was on birth control and told me to abort automatically. Because of how upset he was, he complained to all his Marine friends and they started to gang up on me like I was some animal. So, he basically kicked me out of the apartment and my parents... my PARENTS... had to come and help me move back up to Ohio. He didn't lift a finger for me. When I got back up to Ohio, I sent him my doctor's statement proving I was on the birth control shot Depo Provera. He apologized, but still didn't seem to care. Scared and hurt, I called his mom because he told me prior that she knew about me. YEAH! I called her and she didn't know a thing about me! She told me I could call her anytime I wanted, but when I told him that I contacted her, he flipped out on me. His friends started texting me and calling me psycho. I was nice despite how mean they were and said I was scared. Chris told me to never contact her again. While he was in California training, I sent his mom a letter saying that I would try my best to talk to him about me and her talking to one another. She never responded, but he found out that I wrote her and told me to leave him the hell alone. I haven't heard from him since and that was about a month and a half ago. I'm crushed, hurt, and still lingering on why he's being the way he is. Although I have lots of support from friends and family, I'm still always wondering about Chris. He was on leave just this past week and never bothered to contact me. Although he did hang out with his best friend Rachel the whole time. It's ripping me apart inside and I don't know what to do. Can anyone give me any advice? |
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ladyinred Member |
posted 06-23-2006 04:20 PM
Tell me again, why did you contact HIS mom in the first place?? Just curious... [This message has been edited by ladyinred (edited 06-23-2006).] |
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sweetchx2131 Member |
posted 06-23-2006 09:40 PM
Because I felt in her being the grandparent of this child she had every right to know. I knew he wasn't going to tell her because he never told her about me in the first place. I don't feel that in me contacting HIS mom is as important as the situation at hand. If he's going to get mad about me telling his mom she is going to be a grandmother, then he's not taking any of this seriously. He just wants to hide that he's going to be a father to anyone he possibly can. I don't care about if he doesn't want to tell future girlfriends, friends, wives, family, or whoever that he's going to be a dad. But I felt that his mom, and even she was Ok with me contacting her about it, should know. [This message has been edited by sweetchx2131 (edited 06-23-2006).] |
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soinlove21 Member |
posted 07-04-2006 07:56 PM
I know how ur feeling. I can tell you to move on and stop worrying about him. I can tell you to be patient and that he might come around. But it wont stop the pain- sorry to say. Its easy for some of these men to walk away and wash their hands of the worry and anxiety that comes with being pregnant. Unfortunately- you HAVE to learn to get through it without the father. U said u have lots of support- so ur going to HAVE to lean on those that do care. Try- Please TRY- to keep ur mind off ur ex. Tell urself u wont think about him today and get through just one day at a time. In the mist of ur new independence he's bound to come back...they always do just when u've finally let go  Good luck to u and be strong!! |
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keyshawnsmother Member |
posted 09-05-2006 12:19 AM
I suggest you contact his commanding officer when this baby is born. He needs to support this child. Make sure that you get your baby all the benefits that he deserves such as health care and benefits. DO what you have to do for your baby these military men are something take it from me. You didn't make this baby on your own and believe me the militarty will make sure that your child is provided for. You have to do what is best for your child and that is the bottom line. If he doesn't support the child they will give him an article fifteen so he wants to call you psycho well then you do what you have to do okay. |
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