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Zaksmom New Member |
posted 12-29-2005 05:28 PM
  
This might be long. My son, Zak is 8 months old. His father is about 8 months old in his mind, but 22 in reality. He grew up without a mom or dad (they left him as a baby) and his grandparents raised him. He had contact with his mother since he was 3, but only on the phone. He moved up here with his mom 21/2 yrs ago. I met him.... We were together for a bit, got pregnant. He stayed with me throughout the pregnancy, we fought, but only cuz he always went out and I didn't like that. He has a record from when he was 18, he and his friends were drunk where he used to live, took some guys car bc the keys were in it and got arrested. He spent 9 mo in prison. He tried to get that taken care of, but never followed through bc i had Zak the day he was suppose to go see his probation officer. Ok. So, he moved in. It was good, until about 1 month. He then went out again. We broke up for 2 weeks. He got involved with some Beth chick, stripper (nasty). Then he came back. I took him back. He moved back in, he went out again, and I kicked him out for good. He went back to live with his mom and his 2 friends. We stayed together but didn't live together. Beth was now outta the picture. His mom moved into her own apartment (so now its him and 3 (immature) friends) He would come over and see zak. So, he wrote a letter to the judge to get his court crap taken care of. He went down there, they put him in jail overnight and at court the next day they said he owes them $2,000 in costs of court fees. He called me everyday from jail and told me he misses me and zak he loves me, yada yada yada. He came home, depressed bc he doesn't work a job all the time (its painting). That NEXT day i found him in bed with his friend's girlfriend's sister (Jerry springer?). She has a kid 2 months younger than Zak. Broke my heart. I cried and swore i was done with him. This was october 12th. Well, I suck. I gave in and we met at his moms a few times for him to be with zak. He said he screwed up and never stopped loving me he didn't want to be with her, he will always love me and misses us, but doesn't know how to change and would i take him back. I said if he was a totally different person. That line was said the week before christmas. Yesterday. He is with her again....wtf?
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JAYJAY Member |
posted 12-30-2005 07:13 AM
Hello, All i can say is KICK HIS BUTT OUT. I have said this so many times to others, you are worth more than this. We owe it to ourselves and our children to He comes back because he knows you will let He has taken from you with no giving, -x-x- |
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mortalisamorte Member |
posted 01-26-2006 10:49 PM
I think so......... I was with my ex for 5 years, we met in highschool. To make a long story short, he ended up being really controlling and abusive. I had to get rid of all my friends, I could barly go see my parents, I couldnt leave the house at night, I couldnt dress how I wanted or listen or watch what I wanted, ect.....He did everything from a busted lip to a fractured rib.....I was his slave....and yet I still loved him, and a while later, I became pregnant, and I was honestly suprised that things got worse, one day I caught him beating off to porn, which I couldnt even watch a commercial with a guy in it without getting slapped (seriously) and it hurt me so much, bc of all he put me through and the fact I was 6 months pregnant with low self esteem bc of how I looked. Things grew worse, we split up on and off, he continued hitting me, he didnt help me at all through my pregnancy, and when she was born, i bought all the baby stuff on my own, there were no flowers or I love yous, I barely got any sleep I barly ate, bc he refused to take the baby for more than like 15 minuets a day, ( he spend 7 plus hours a day on his computer playing video games), he ignored me, etc. He finally hit me while I was holding the baby, so I moved out. Now he is saying if i make him pay child support he will walk out of the babys life ( he knows that hurts me bci want her to have a dad)....and he wants me to move back in. So like a fool , I went there the other day, and he sweet talked me, long enough to get in my pants, then immeditaly started screaming and being mean, all bc I asked him if he could fix my car for me, and saying how he doesnt need to help or support me, and how much of a loser I was, as he shoved me and the baby out the door. Today he came back to apologize......and its like, I hate him, he makes me soooo sad, yet I cant leave him totally and I dont know why....everytime I do, he is like I love you, I promise things will be better, and they never are....why cant I learn? whats wrong with me? * a young mom* [This message has been edited by mortalisamorte (edited 01-26-2006).] |
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jewelz Member |
posted 08-13-2006 01:18 AM
sometimes it is harder to give up the white picket fence dream...that's what I call it and move on then it should be...don't waste your life/time...if he doesn't want to be part of his child's life it his loss..and nothing you do can make him be involed..been there...done that...got that entire wardrobe. |
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mommy-2-B Member |
posted 10-06-2006 01:26 PM
have you left that loser for good? i hope so bc reading your story made me scared for you. my soon to be x husband is very verbally abusive and i'm pregnant and he crossed the line when he said some stuff about the baby, i was talking to my sister yesterday and said something about now i have more than myself to think about and she said "you don't value yourself enough, you yourself are reason enough to not put up with that" - she's so right and i wanted to pass that on to everyone here. we as women don't place nearly enough value on ourselves and allow these useless men to suck us dry of anything they can get from us. sounds like your sperm donor is consistently evil (it's true if they hi you once they'll do it again - you know that honey) so don't allow sweet talk for 5 min get you all mushy and vulnerable, NO SEX IS THAT GOOD! take care. |
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DisneyMom Member |
posted 10-22-2006 05:25 PM
I would say be done with him and his drama from now on. It is obvious he has not grown up and is "escapades" are not what you need to put forth to your child. If he is with her again, so be it. Its not up to you to worry and wonder. Take care of your son and do whats best for the 2 of you. You and your son is all you need to worry about. |
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nccowgirl New Member |
posted 07-18-2007 09:30 PM
mean what you say, and say what you mean! I have been in your shoes, and I am still going trough it! |
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missy1028 Member |
posted 01-23-2008 09:19 PM
I have to tell you reading all this makes me cry, Cause I will be there in a few months being 5 months along. I wish there was some sort or mircle that could change this boys to men. And show them how they really are and ask them if they are proud of what they do to us. I am inclined to say that these boys came from broken homes to begin with, but my child father came from a good home, parents still married 4 children, and soon to be 6 grandchildren later, all of them to cathlic school. If you read left behind, you would know what kind of A- hole I deal with. We need better circles of friends close by to stop us from accepting there calls. My friend once said take his number out of speed dial and put mine in, when you feel lonely or want to talk to him you will dial me and I will keep you from talking to him. OK I am an ass and did not take my own advice. But maybe someone out there will. |
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