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going ballistic New Member |
posted 08-03-2009 11:52 PM
 
My 4 year old daughter just seems to have a way of pushing my buttons these days. She doesnt listen to me, she ignores me, she cannot stay in one place, she makes unnecessary mess around the house (playing with water in the living room, smearing food, eating on the bed etc.)She constantly wants my attention by upsetting me. When I get angry at her, she screams at me on top of her lungs.I do not know what to do with her anymore. Her father moved out of the house last April. We got evicted from our apartment because he did not pay the rent. My daughter and I just moved in to a smaller apartment and I am alone in taking care of everything. From unpacking, finding storage space for everything, caring for my kid, cooking, marketing everything. The last thing I need right now is a fight with my daughter. And we do fight... everyday. There is not a single day that goes by ever since we moved that she and I didnt fight. I love her so much, She is my life. But lately, to be quite honest, I am resenting having her around because she seemingly does things and says things to me to upset me and get me worked up. I am so tired and frustrated. I need someone to say something to me about this. Anything. |
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shawn single dad |
posted 08-05-2009 07:23 PM
I am so sorry you and you daughter are having difficulties. I am not a child psychologist but I would guess that she is acting out against all of the change, the change in your family unit, the change in your home, and the change in you trying to deal with it all. I am sorry if that is too obvious of an answer. But, I think there are concrete things you can do to get out of this cycle of frustration. First I think you need to find a councelor for yourself so you can begin to heal; your personal health is paramount in the whole scheme of being happy and being a good single mom. Also, you should consult with your daughter's pediatrician about finding her a behavioral councelor to try and help her deal with all of these changes. Don't be embarrassed about any of this. It is quite common for the young and old to have difficulties dealing with such massive change, and there are many out there who are able to help. I am glad you started here, but keep going, keep reaching out. You'll heal and then you'll be in a position to grow and be happy and help others. God Bless |
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GCH New Member |
posted 08-05-2009 09:58 PM
Our children feel when something is wrong. She is asking to be with you, calling your attention because you are the only one who can help her to fill that empty space that same as you has. , remember they are children, they don’t know yet how to express their feelings and necessities, that it is pretty much our job as a parents. I understand how you feel but think on your daughter first. You are the adult, you picked what you got, your daughter is the victim of everything and she does not know WHY? Being a single mother is not easy but it has its privileges; show your daughter that you are the mother and deserve respect, do not let her scream at you and you do not scream at her. You definitely need your time but do not take it away from her time with you… give her extra time and make her feel the special she is, do fun things with her and forget about your cell phone, TV, computer and just talk to each other, sing along with her as loud as you can, get the cloths done together, wash the bathtub together even she mess everything up let her know that is OK you are with her and together you both are solving the problem… Every night when she is sleeping talk close to her ear and tell her how much you love her and that tomorrow is another good day together. She needs you more than anything |
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