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jessie Member |
posted 07-09-2008 07:53 PM
 
Please help! I don't know what to do. I am a single mom of two lil boys (soon to be 4 & 5). I have been a huge disappointment to my family and have just begun for them to have hope in me. I am one of those people with continuous catastrophies, most of which I know I somehow cause on my own. Here's another one. I've only been with this new guy for a month and found out yesterday that I am pregnant. He doesn't know yet. I have strong feelings for him but have noticed a few notes of irresponsibility, and honestly a few flashbacks of my boys' father. I just recently got over a work issue of having knee surgery and have finally begun to work back into good graces. I can't imagine this one... I'm already around hidden judges.. no one around here is a single mom, it's a 'shameful' thing. I'm proud of how far I've come, but now I feel like I haven't learned a darn thing. I've earned trust of my church family (pretty much all I have nearby since I moved a lil away from family). I just can't imagine what the heck to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't know whether to keep it or not.. i have had 2 abortions, one prior to my babies and one after, with their father. My children drive me nuts already as it is... I think i'm always mad. Please help! |
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jesscartertrav New Member |
posted 09-13-2008 01:50 PM
I am so in a similar situation! I have a 2 and 3 yr old but am divorced from their father. I have been getting with this guy from work for over a year now, nothing serious. So I just found out I am pregnant again! Of course he doesnt want it and my family is furious with me but I just can't bring myself to get an abortion. It seems like the whole world is against me! |
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jessie Member |
posted 09-13-2008 06:55 PM
Well, I had the abortion. It was terrible. I know God has forgiven me, but it's not something I will ever forget. And this guy, well I really really thought that he was 'the one.' I am heartbroken and can't even imagine what it'd be like if I was carrying his child. I am disgusted with him and with myself. I don't understand why God loves me so much, but somehow I know that He does. I just wish He would take this pain away too. I wish I could tell you what to do about having this child but I can't. BUT I AM here if you want to talk or email me. Where you're at right now is a very lonely place to be, THAT I do understand! |
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mags50 Member |
posted 11-29-2008 12:34 AM
Get yourself into counseling. You're a mom and need to get yourself straightened out both for your sake and for the sake of your children. I had some similar experiences too but didn't take any responsibility for them until I sobered up in AA 17 years ago. Get yourself some help. Your life will only get better. |
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Bresies New Member |
posted 11-22-2009 01:45 PM
I have a very similar situwation. I'm 24 years old, and a songle parent to a precious baby girl who just turned 1 years old a week ago! I have been dating a guy who is 12 years older then me for 6 months now, and he just recently proposed to me, which I said yes. He has 3 kids from a previous marriage, and is great with my daughter. I just found out I was pregnant a few days ago and was shocked when he automatically wanted an abortion, stating all the reasons he doesnt want another child. Never once I was asked what I wanted, and he knew coming into the relationship that I wanted a to build a family, and this involved having another child. I know we arent exactly ready for this, but as with my daughter, it wasnt planned, it just happened, and she is the most precious gift. He have pretty much broken up, and he's made it clear he doesn't want this child, and is forcing an abortion on me. I'm super angry, hurt, confussed, and I dont know what to do. I'm already a single mom with a young child, and I dont know if I could raise two on my own, but an abortion feels so wrong to me. I just dont know what to do. One minute I feel like I"m going to go through with it, the other i change my mind, I'm so confused and needd some advice. |
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shawn single dad |
posted 11-23-2009 09:16 PM
This guy is all about himself. Either you do his bidding and go against your heart and come to resent him forever, or you stay true to yourself. He may or may not come around, and what he does will tell you about the kind of person he is. You know who you are, even if you are confused because of the pressure from him and the hormones from it all. Trust in yourself. |
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1mom10 New Member |
posted 12-13-2009 01:08 AM
You should not be too hard on yourself. Your family will still be there to support you, no matter what. your child will be a bundle of joy. You just have to get help and have a positive attitude. Programs For Single Mothers Single Mother Help, Support & Assistance - Help For Single Moms |
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