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michelle1966 Member |
posted 06-01-2008 08:26 AM
  
Hi, i have a problem that i so need advice on, so if anyone out there could please advise i would be very grateful. my daughter just turned 17 and on 29th dec 2007 gave birth to a wonderful beautiful little girl called Klarissa. the story is very long so i will try to make it as brief as poss for you all. since baby has been bout 2 moths old every so often my daughter would go out for a night out and not come back for a week or two, no phone call or txt to ask how the baby is nothing, then she would come back not even apologise. i offrerd to babysit for her once a week, but this wasnt good enough she wanted 3 nights a week so reluctantly i agreed so long as she kept her mobile phone turned on (cos you never know what can happen with a young baby). every time she has gone off i have never been able to reach her by phone as she always turns it off when she goes on a walkabout. She has had 7 boyfriends since klarissa's birth. but its the latest one thats the problem, he is 30 never been married, he made it plain from the start he didnt get on with klarissa. he even said in front of my daughter@she gets in the way abit@ my daughter never defended her baby. to cut a long story short she has gone off again to live with this so called man and dumped the baby on me. my problem is this i have ill health and my own son aged11 yrs no friends or family, in fact not a soul in this world. i am struggling to cope with my beautiful grandaughter, my daughter does not care if i give her away. its tearing me apart cos i am attached to this little baby. i dont think i can ever forgive my daughter for putting me in this terrible position. do i let her go to be adopted by proper parents or do i struggle on.. please please advise me.. thank you michelle |
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shawn single dad |
posted 06-07-2008 10:00 AM
I am not sure how the law works where you live (england) but I would say at the very least you should try to get legal custody of the child if you don't want to have her adopted out. Your daughter is just a child herself and seems incapable of thinking beyond her own immediate term needs. So you need to take control of the situation. Either adopt the child and raise her as your own or look into having her adopted by a family that wants, and is looking for, a child to love. Perhaps you should start looking into both options and let your daughter know what is happening. Right now you are enabling her. You need to establish some ground rules for YOUR house, if she refuses to follow the basic rules of respect and responsibility then you should not allow her to stay even one more night. Tough love is in order or you will have many years of intense struggle and heartache. This is for all of you own good, and good will become of it if you stay firm and put your trust in God. my prayers go out to you and all of your family |
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