posted 05-28-2008 06:51 AM            

I don't know what to do. He continues to choose her over me. She punched me in the eye a couple of months ago, I called the police, and my husband actually LIED for her and told the police she never did it. It was 2 against one, and they left believing my husband and his daughter. Since then she has invited him to her hs graduation (told him that she could only invite a certain number of people so I was NOT invited) and my husband sees nothing wrong with this. Anything I have ever said about her, he defends her to the death, though she has cussed him out and showed absolutely no respect for the man who has raised her and her siblings ON HIS OWN since their drug-addict mother abandoned them when she was 10.

posted 06-20-2008 11:10 AM            

Did you bring any kids into the marriage of your own? I'm asking because I was in a relationship/marriage for 4 years. Your story sound kind of like mine, but I was the one with the kids, not him. There were issues with the kids too, and although I'm not a man and the circumstances are different, I will tell you that in the end, my children's hearts came out on top. You may think that the kids hate you, but they are hurting inside and really are not "little adults" who know how to express true feelings. My, as of May 28,2008 ex-husband, (my first husband and father of my kids died in 2000), told me once that he wasn't trying to make me choose between him and the kids. Well, he was with his actions and words. And I did choose them. You're in a tough world, and it's not that your husband doesn't love you, but that he is having to choose who to trust and who's trust he wants more. They are not just his kids, but also his friends. I should know. My kids are my best friends, and I wasn't going to allow someone to keep hurting them even if it was someone I was married to.