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Jerilyn Member |
posted 07-24-2007 10:49 AM
  
My story- My husband and I (of 4 yrs) have gone through 2 yrs of fertility treatment and finally IVF worked and we found out that I'm pregnant. At 10 weeks pg, I came home to a note that he can't do this- that he has no feelings for me or the baby. He also quit his job as a restaurant mgr that day, bcause he couldn't handle that stress anymore either. Come to find out, he's in love with a 23 yo bartender who worked for him (He's 37). He doesn't want me to have the baby and says that he won't have anything to do with it, and that he's moving out of state (with her). With all that being said, I'm wondering if I'm being fair to the baby. Or if I'm being selfish beacause I've always wanted a baby, and I went through so much to get pregnant, etc... I don't know if all the love that I have is enough to compensate for the complete lack of a father. Your thoughts and opinions are appreciated. |
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leigh1517 Member |
posted 07-24-2007 11:19 AM
What a scum bag. I'm sorry you're having to go through this. If you want to have the baby then you should regardless of what he says. My opinion is that you carry the baby to term and then if you still aren't sure if you can do it on your own, give the baby up for adoption. I wish the best. |
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Bluebird Member |
posted 07-25-2007 06:53 PM
He doesn't deserve you or your baby. The wonderful life growing inside you, however, is a blessing from God. Please keep your faith and trust God's plan for you and your baby. If you went through all that to get pregnant, you must have really wanted to be a mother. My heart goes out to you. Take care of yourself. |
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lkellyhappy1 Member |
posted 07-28-2007 11:24 AM
What a creep!! What are you planning on doing? |
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Jerilyn Member |
posted 07-28-2007 08:59 PM
Well, I'm definitely having the baby and I filed for divorce. I was really worried that I'd be bringing the baby into the world only to be crushed by the absence of its father. But I guess it'll be better off without him. ------------------ |
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lkellyhappy1 Member |
posted 07-29-2007 09:16 PM
Its tough being a single parent, but children are a blessing. |
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Jerilyn Member |
posted 07-29-2007 09:56 PM
Thanks for the support. |
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Coley333 New Member |
posted 08-05-2007 10:57 PM
Hi to everyone...I'm new here! I know I'm late getting back 2 u on dis but kids have this special way of making you feel loved and recognizing the good/truth. people just don't see this right away cause they're scared or hurt. i know cause i've raised 2 kids for the past 8 yrs on my own & always wondered if i did a serious unjustice having them without a dad. they're doing great and they know they are loved! good luck to you! may your baby & u b safe and may he or she bring you as much joy that mine have amidst all the betrayal & pain! ------------------ |
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