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Mflood86 Member |
posted 06-27-2007 01:21 PM
  
Hi everyone. I dont know where else to write about this subject, in fact I am still in a great deal of shock. I met my girlfriend last Feb. and we hit it off immiendiately. I am 20 years old, and she is 19. We were together for a few months. Come early May this year, she tells me that she was pregnant. I supported her tremendously and we told our parents. My parents are your typical middle-class conservatives, and her parents are Baptists, she is their only child. They were upset at first but we introduced them to each other and they got along great, supported us fully, truley two sets of wonderful parents. A week after we tell them the news, Lauren had a miscarriage. We were upset, my parents felt relieved. A week after the miscarriage we began having sex again. I used condoms religiously after the experience and she had plans to start the pill as soon as her next period began. One time when we were having sex, the condom broke. We were'nt too worried because we figured that it would be highly unlikely for it to happen again given the circumstances. Well last Sunday, her period still hasnt come, and the doctor told her to begin taking the pill, but first, take a pregnancy test just to be sure. The pregnancy test was positive, again. I am still in shock, we went to the doctor yesterday and its confirmed, she is five weeks pregnant again. I was so scared to tell my parents because they warned me so many times to not let this happen again. I got her mom to call my parents and they were FURIOUS. I had a problem child brother and they had never even been this upset with him. I completely understand why they wer so upset though, I would be too. They have all come around, but no one feels as sorry for us as they did the first time, which is understandable. I am scared to death and looks like I am going to take some time off from college and just start working my ass off. Everyone seems so upset with us, and looks at us like we are so irresponsible. I feel like I am a class A F*ck up. Does anyone have any advice for my situation? This is the only message board I could find, any others suggested would help. Thanks |
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Bluebird Member |
posted 06-27-2007 04:29 PM
Both of you are very fertile. If she's choosing to have this baby, you're going to be a father. It sounds as if you plan to be supportive and present, whatever her decision. Otherwise, I'm pretty old-fashioned about fertility. If your fella's tucked away, he's not going to impregnate anyone. Maybe some abstinence is in order while you work on college and growing into adulthood.... |
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Mflood86 Member |
posted 06-27-2007 05:03 PM
Oh yes we are having the baby. |
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lkellyhappy1 Member |
posted 06-28-2007 04:01 PM
Children are a lot of work, but they are wonderful. Try to be more careful next time and wait till she is on the pill. |
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jrdmum Member |
posted 07-09-2007 05:53 AM
well, its happened now and you will just have to deal with it. i believe everything happens for a reason and to me it sounds like you guys were just meant to have a baby together, not what you want to hear probably but thats the way i get my head around things. If you guys are serious about keeping the baby there is nothing you can do except prepare to love this child unconditionally, it will be very hard for you both being so young but when its born you will most likely forget the dramas you are having now and your parents will too once they are holding their grandchild. good luck |
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Mizkay829 Member |
posted 07-09-2007 05:21 PM
Well, don't feel too bad, I'm 19 and pregnant, and my boyfriend is wishy washy. He has no intention of staying it seems. So I plan to be raising my son alone. We have been together over a year, and he is not sure if he wants me to have this baby. IT'S NOT HIS CHOICE. This is my first child, and God gave him to me for a reason. I was told I could never have kids, but low and behold. Good luck with your situation though.... ------------------ |
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rokkerbaby1 New Member |
posted 11-18-2007 05:59 PM
I was 20 when I became the mother to a little girl and now looking back I wouldn't change it for the world. I give you credit to standing by your girlfriend. My daughter's father took off when I told him I was pregnant. My daughter will be two this February. Yes it has been difficult but it also has been a blessing. Each day I get to see the smile on her face and she loves me unconditionally and it is a great feeling knowing I am here for her when ever she needs me. So congratulations and I wish you and your girlfriend a safe and happy delivery and a healthy baby. |
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