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JJMum Member |
posted 04-12-2007 07:56 PM
 
I recently cut ties with my daughters father. We were never married but may have been on that path until I found out I was pregnant and he didn't want children. I decided to have my daughter with or without him and even gave him all the room he needed to adjust to being a father and having a family. She is 14 months old now and I have finally given up trying to make it work...I am utterly exhausted. When I fould out I was pregnant I moved in with my parents ( who are beyond supportive of my decisions) because I didn't know what was to come of my relationship with the father. I have raised my daughter. I am the one who makes decisions. I am the one who didn't sleep a solid night until she was a year. I am the one who wipes her nose when she has a cold and gives her hugs and kissed when she falls. He picks her up to have dinner with his parents two nights a week when I work. That is the only time he has her...and I am OK with that for now. However I just recieved a note from his mother ( who I have a decent relationship with) telling me what a great job the two of us are doing on parenting and for the first time I feel angry. I don't know what to do with this new emotion...I know I am a good mom...but I'm afraid of holding onto this anger and distast for them not seeing the truth of the situation. Does anyone have any advice or even just some comforting words? I feel very lonely right now...and I am too young to let anger take over...28 is too young to give in to that emotion. Please help me get through this. |
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shawn single dad |
posted 04-13-2007 08:25 PM
I am sorry you are feeling so low. You will get through this, and as you take positive steps to grow you will come out stronger than ever. It is so important to try and let go of the anger, don't let him have that hold over you. Not that you shouldn't get pissed at him when you need to, but after you vent it to him or to a friend or to us, then let it go and realize that you have so much more than he because you have a deep and real relationship with your child. You get to see all the little precious moments of her development. Turn to God and your family for support, and set a goal for yourself and your child to help you get going forward. |
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JAYJAY Member |
posted 04-15-2007 01:10 PM
Oh hun, i know how you are feeling.. I have do all for my daughter without any help from him almost from birth. And not once did his mother, family or for that matter has he, ever said thankyou or well done. It has been hard at times, lots of times in fact. Just take heart in knowing that you have done it all and dont worry about what she says, she know doubt knows it is all your hard work.. -xx- |
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crzylilangel00 Member |
posted 04-22-2007 03:26 PM
i know how u feeling hun, was in a similar positon not too long ago. i have been raising my 2 little boys by myself since they were born. but the key thing is to not let this anger that you are feeling eat you up inside, like the others said venting to sumone helps, that is what i do , i go and i blog everything..lol.. but it helps you release it more. take comfort in knowing that she has a mom that loves her and that you will get to see her grow into a young woman and know that you(not anybody else) had put the morals and all the things that go with that into her so she will grow up to be a strong independant woman just like her momma |
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jules13 Member |
posted 07-11-2007 02:25 PM
I completely understand how you feel. I have done all the parenting to my 7 year old daughter and I have carried a HUGE resentment toward him all this time. I have recently come to realize that the only person this is hurting is me. I still get mad at him but I try to just let it go. It's not going to be easy for you but you will be a stronger person in the end. Pray and take advice from family and friends. I'll be thinking of you. |
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