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busygrl24 New Member |
posted 11-03-2008 06:45 PM
  
I'm a single, 24 year old, mother of two boys, 4 and 2. I attend college full time, have a full time job, bowl twice a week (my boys come with me), plus try and spend every moment with my children. I just want a moment for myself! I'm starting to lose my mind. I'm so busy during the week and weekends, I feel I'm getting burnt out. I try and take some time off for the kids and I, but things never work out. The job I have barely gets us by and am looking for a different one. I find that dating is impossible for me, especially since my boys are so young! I like to have my fun here and there, but I also like to spend all my free time with my boys. There are times I want just to hang out with my friend, want things to be the way they were before I had my boys. One thing is perfectly clear tho, I wouldn't trade my babies in for anything in the world. Help!!!! Don't know how to stop this train of thought and want to find a decent schedule for my busy life!!! |
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kimber72 Member |
posted 11-04-2008 05:43 PM
Your issue is the same amoung many on this site, regardless of your age or your boys ages. I am 35, have 2 girls age 6 and 5. I work about 1 hour from the house. My job is good, so I am able to make ends meet. However, I get up at 5:45 am, I leave my house at 8:00 am, dont return until 6...then there is aways soccer, girl scouts, dinner, picking up the house, making lunch for the next day. I go to be about 11pm most nights and that does not include anytime for myself. On weekends I dont have my kids there is yard work, bills to be paid, laundry, the guy I am dating DEMANDS my attention to the point I ready to break up with him, just to get time for myself. Personally, I am okay with just seeing him once every two weeks. I was taking a karate class for myself but quit becuase I just cant fit it in. I colapse at the end of most days and feel like I am constantly exhausted. I keep telling myself that life has to get better. I have resigned myself to not allowing the girls to do any winter sports, two less things I have to do during the week. So you are not alone, I wish I can tell you that it gets easier, good luck! |
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Jessi&JJ Member |
posted 11-18-2008 09:43 PM
I am feeling the same way ...OF COURSE. I do it all on my own. My ex lives away and see my son infrequently. Thankfully I have now finished school. I am living pay check to paycheck and worry about money all the time...somehow I get by (no child support). I am dating someone right now. He does not have a lot of experience with kids but he has stuck it out for a year and is doing pretty good. I found that I had to give up some things in order to date. A big one that drives me crazy is my house in NASTY. We can't do it all as single mothers and not only can others not understand that…. But neither can WE! We push ourselves to hard and are too hard on ourselves. We can’t do it all, but we will continue to push ourselves and do our best because our kids deserve all we can give. It is about figuring out your priorities and what you can live with falling through the cracks. With single parenting I have found it is not the stuff it used to be. Little things like picking up bread used to fall threw the cracks. Now it is whole portions of life. Instead of I don't have time to pick up bread, it is….. I don't have time to clean anything...period. I don't have time for reading, exercise, phone calls,…breathing. What do I get done? I spend all the time I can with my son. I feed him, bath him, teach him, read to him, sing to him, groceries shop, take him to practices and parties, work full time, pay the bills, fix things around the house, change the oil in the car, …..most of us only get a few hours sleep. It is a wonder we all haven’t completely lost our minds. Sleep deprivation is how they touchier prisoners of war. Anyway…..I had to give up some big things in order to date, but I needed the social interaction, the hope, the break…so I didn’t get burned out. Because I have found someone that is working out well so far it has been nice to have more grown up conversation and I am less burned out. I am however perpetually tired and overwhelmed…that did not go away I just shuffled my time around. I am only one person…and so are you. The person you are with needs to understand and respect that too. Get out girl even for a minute by yourself. Don’t get too burned. It is not good for you or the kids! |
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