posted 07-13-2008 12:08 AM         

I'm nearly 37 and two daughters ages 13 and 9. I've been separated for over 3 years. Divorce isn't final yet. Anyway, I've only dated 3 guys since leaving my ex and I think I'm about ready to give up. It's very hard to meet anyone.

I work part-time and I'm in school. That sort of cuts down on my time. I've been sick for over 13 years and that cuts down on what I can do due to continuous pain and fatigue. Being a student, I don't have a lot of money either. I barely make ends meet.

Oh, I don't meet anyone through school because working, taking care of the kids, etc plus going to regular classes is too taxing and I would only get worse health-wise. So no social network there.

Single mom, my age, no car,poor, sick and as a result of that I have about 15 extra lbs on me. That alone means not many men notice me. Any I strike conversations up with, well, it's over with quick. I'm a good person but no man seems to care about that.

posted 07-15-2008 02:13 AM            

"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barnes, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable then they?"

posted 07-18-2008 04:37 PM            

I think being attractive has a lot to do with with feeling confident and beautiful. That comes from inside- and from taking the best care of yourself that you can. My health issues take a serious toll and I tend to hibernate when I'm not feeling well, but I do take good care of my emotional and spiritual health (the areas where I do have some control).

posted 10-01-2008 11:27 PM         

First to puzzledfather: I appreciate the thought but I'm not Christian. I'm a pagan.

Second to Bluebird: I'm actually quite confident about who I am, where I'm going, and my place spiritually. I'm intelligent, my interests are varied. I'm a good person, a good listener nad I never try to mold a man into someone he isn't. I'm generous, kind,honest, respectful, I help when I can, and I'm a bit of a tomboy so watching sports, or working on cars is fun to me. I'm not a shy person, either, and I smile lots. I don't need more confidence. lol

Hard to feel beautiful, though, when men are telling you your recycled garbage cuz you have kids(you would be amzed at what's been said to me because I have kids), the only men who date you think you're easy cuz you're a mom, etc etc.

I know I'm not bad looking. I'm not the best looking, never will be but I'm not bad. All I can afford are jeans and t-shirts though so it's not like I can get all dressed up just to go to the mall. Even if I have confidence, if I have no or next to no social network because it's hard for me to get out, not even through a bloody websit....I feel like a shut-in. I have been lonely since long before I left him.

I have since had to quit my job for health reasons so there goes the one avenue I had.

It's funny. I'm the one who left to get away from his abuse. He's the one who gets the social life, the dates, he got the one friend I was allowed to have. But he got the car ( he can afford it), he has no health problems, he can have a good job...

I think I'll be content to be alone, raise my kids. No one seems to be able to think of a way for me to gain even just some friends, let alone some companionship with a man. I have always been a very social person until my ex-husband but it doesnt' look like I'll ever get even a small social life back. After my kids are raised, I'll just move on to the next life. No point in hanging around in this one if all I can do is sit at home and never have conversation.