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BHstump1234 Member |
posted 11-19-2007 07:56 AM
  
Hello... I am a 41 year old single father... I have a question, when do the freakin head games stop. I'm not like most men, I really care about being a good/nice guy. Bit it seems like the head games I remember from 20 some years ago are still going on today.. Tell me, do women really want to be treated like crap? I just can;t bring myself to do it, bit I guess if I want more than 1 or 2 dates with a woman, that's what I got to do.. Still learning the dating game here, but need some advice... HELP! |
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kimber72 Member |
posted 11-19-2007 07:53 PM
I think that both sides play games. Especially when trying to get to know someone. You want to make a good first impression so you stay on your best behavior. eventually as you become more comfortable that "best" behavior turns into whats normal. When looking for someone to date, find someone who knows what they want and feel strongly about it, that is the person who will be more like the "real deal" when they are on their best behavior. If you begin to sense a wishy washyness about what that wman wants in her life - it may not really be "games" she is playing, but a sense of not really knowing what she wants, and since you do - she will not be the right one for you and it will feel like she is plaing games. The second thing is - everyone is so afraid of being hurt - (in most cases again) that they dont want to open up thier feelings to you until you open up to them - while the woman may really like you she may not be willing to say it until she hears it from you first - and while that is childish it is also survialist animal emotional instinct, only in this case you cant ask your friend to go find out if she likes you like you could in high school. Might all sound dumb I know, but its true. [This message has been edited by kimber72 (edited 11-19-2007).] |
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kimber72 Member |
posted 11-24-2007 10:10 AM
You want to talk about a game....Thank goodness I listened to all of your advice and stopped talking to the ex. I understand that most divorces dont go to trail, at least not in the state of NJ but I really hope mine does, I cannot wait to get that as***** before a judge and let him know all the financial BS he is pulling. When in the F*** does a father care more about hiding money and keeping it to himelf than making sure his kids are well taken care of? [This message has been edited by kimber72 (edited 11-24-2007).] |
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jasond Member |
posted 12-01-2007 04:19 PM
There is a lot to be said about the saying "Nice guys finish last". It seems the nice guys have to wait until the woman has been hurt over and over again before they realize they should look for someone that might actually treat them right. ------------------ |
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mags50 Member |
posted 11-29-2008 12:55 AM
I don't know where you're meeting women but you're not meeting any of my friends, which is unfortunate, because they are all great. Maybe you're trying to date too young...just a hypothesis. Women in their 40's and 50's are fun to be around. Some of our body parts are spiraling downwards but that can be remedied, sort of. We do have wrinkles and spend hundreds on denying our age at the salon but we are terrific. I'm much more dateable now because I don't need a man to take care of me. Four of us were hanging out on a Saturday night awhile back at my house. I looked around and saw four attractive, highly educated women...Harvard MBA, UT MBA, SMU MBA, a therapist and wondered what the hell was wrong with this picture. Just food for thought. Hope things improve for you. |
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purple Member |
posted 12-13-2008 08:36 PM
I don't want to hurt your feelings, but you sound angry. [This message has been edited by purple (edited 01-14-2009).] |
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