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kimber72 Member |
posted 10-14-2007 04:01 PM
  
I try hard to give the ex his space with the kids when he has them, I dont call to check up on them, and I will only call if I really want to talk to them (which is always, but in the light of giving him space, I try to let them have their time). Anyway, my vent is this: He calls this morning and left a message telling me that he was just haivng the kids call and say hi becuase he did not know if I talked to them last night. I called back, got his machine, but did not leave a message. BUT if he does not know if I called last night that means the girls had a babysitter. and in my opinion that really sucks. I get events happen on days he might have the kids, but I have reason to believe that the kids are OFTEN with a babysitter on his weekend, what is the point of "parenting time" if the kids are going to be left with a babysitter? On that occasion where the event happens, fine, but if it is just a bunch of people gettinng together "just bacuase" then DONT GO! Stay home that weekend and BE with the kids. I typically wont go out on my weekend unless it is an event I cannot control or change, but I always try to plan my nights out around the girls. This is really just a vent, and there is not much I can do to change it, we have talked about this already and he CLAIMS the kids are already in bed before he goes, but thats not true. But am I wrong? Should the girls not come first before any of his friends and their dumb "lets get drunk parties". Thank goodness I got that out of my system when I was in college. |
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jasond Member |
posted 10-19-2007 11:50 PM
WOW! I finally found someone that has the same issue as I do. I never understand why my ex does not plan things around when she has our little girl. I always here how she had to have the neighbor watch her while she had to "take care of something" or her eldest daughter would call me and her mom went out drinking and did not come and pick up our daughter. I would get so pissed. Why can't she do that on the days she is home alone why does she have to blow her time with her friends when, in my opinion, she should be spending time with Madalyn. Look what you did... you got me started. OH well you can't control what other people do but I feel sorry for Madalyn not being able to spend quality time with her mom because her mom is unable to say "no" to her friends. ------------------ |
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kimber72 Member |
posted 10-21-2007 09:05 PM
Sorry, I did not mean to get you started. I wish it was my ex's inability to say no that is the problem. In my case, the ex really does not want to get involved with the kids, and does the minimum the court has instructed him to do. He never wanted to get involved in being a family hence the problems in the marriage and why he began to have an affair (it is so easy to run away as opposed to addres the problems). I keep telling myself, if he would have just gone to the park with the girls, but I guess it is really not my problem, as long as I can give the kids as much love as I can... |
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