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Lillyzmom Member |
posted 10-10-2007 11:23 PM
  
Well I am 28 years old with a 10 month old. The father is 21 and in and out of prison. In and out of the drug world. I just left him a month ago because he wouldnt stop using, he wouldnt come home at night. He would go out and get a job, but he could go to his friends house to get drunk, talk all kinds of maddness to me get physicly violent with me, then reck my car. So then I decided I didnt deserve to be treated that way so I left him. Also my daughter doesnt deserve to live with a father who wants to do drugs, she deserves better then that kind of life. I love him very much but I know I cant change him, and I know you cant help anyone who doesnt want to help themselves. I am a recovering addicict also so I know what he is going threw. But that doesnt mean I have do be dragged into that lifestyle again. I would love to continue my sob story but, honestly I am not sure anyone is listening. Anyhow I am just puting myself out there maybe someone can relate. I want my family, but I wont sacrifice her well being, or her safty just to be with the one I love. Does that make sence. I still love him and I want to be with him, but. . . I am just need some reasurence that I did the right thing. That I am doing the right thing. Anyhow enough of my babbling on and on. Any advice on how to not let the father of my child get to me, by all means I need it. Thank you for listing! :-) |
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jwg Member |
posted 10-11-2007 05:59 AM
YES, you certainly did do the right thing by putting your daughter's safety first and leaving. I know that was a difficult decision to make. I don't have any advice for you other than be strong and don't back down. Make a good life for yourself and your daughter. You've found a great place here for support. The people on this board are amazing. Good luck and stay strong. |
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jasond Member |
posted 10-19-2007 11:57 PM
I agree with jwg... YOU DID DO THE RIGHT THING! First and foremost you are responsible for taking care of that wonderful little girl you have been blessed with. Years ago I was addicted to drugs and alcohol and I was a miserable wreck. I am so glad I did not have my little girl then because I would of been a terrible father. I have not used or drank for years and I have never felt better. I know others that are in similar situations as you are and over time they were able to move on. It just takes some time. Maybe someday the father will clean up his act but until he has proven that guard your girl and yourself as well. Hang in there!! You will be okay and don't second guess your decision, it is a good one. ------------------ |
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