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kimber72 Member |
posted 09-03-2007 04:47 PM
  
If I had to write this whole story, it would take a long time, and you a long time to read it. I will try to get to the heart of it. Last night (about 10:30), the ex and I exchanged words, over the the fact thatI have been bringing my kids to a shrink, to help them deal with thier anger. after we hung up, about 11pm, his girl friend (whom he lives with) calls me, I tried ignoring her calls but she went from my house, to my cell, I had my friend here, so she answered the phone and told the girl that Kevin and I could speak in the AM after we both calmed down. This did not stop the calls. She texted me, so I texted her back saying it was beteeen me and my ex - dont get involved. She texted back asking me want I wanted from him, and while I was texting her back telling her that I just wanted him to be a dad and to leave me alone. She called AGAIN. I told her verbally to stay out of it, she gave me some crap about wanting to help becuase they have been having disciline problems at their house with my kids, I said her and my ex had to work that out for thier house, and they needed to be consisant with her kids and my ex's. I must have talked to her for 45 mintes repeating myself a few times about consistancy betiween all the kids....during this 45 minutes she asked me if I would ever take the ex back...then it was "even if he says sorry?". I told her a little about why and the games he has been playing with me and the girls. and then I told her the following that "I will always love the man I married, and I am still in love with that man, but that man died when his father died, and what was left in his place was a monster. He and I were best friends and I desperately missed my best friend, but the man she was with was not the same person he was when he and I got married. So she says oh my god he says the exact same thing, and again asked about taking him back. I have a few theories. One is that she is feeling me out for him (which is not likey if they are in bed together). Two is that she is feeling insecure in her relationship with him and is feeling me out for herself to see if I she might lose him if I take him back. Three is that she id just insecure becuase they dont have what he and I HAD, and maybe he is talking about me alot. I probably think the 2nd one it closest. But I am very happy to know that he hurts as much as I do, but I also would like to know now WHY after a year of them being together why is this happening? What do you all think? Dont worry, I wont take him back, I cant wait to move out of the house we shared, but I am still analyzing all this.... |
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jasond Member |
posted 09-19-2007 09:10 PM
WOW! I read what you had to say and I sympathize for you greatly. There is nothing worse than a person who does not know their place and how to respect another person's boundaries, I am talking about your ex's girlfriend. She is completely out of line for hassling you the way she was. It sounds like you did well holding your own but there comes a time when you need to get some sleep so you got to humor them sometimes just to get them leave you alone. I would agree that his current girlfriend is insecure and that is her problem. She obviously has issues and you are not there to give her a warm fuzzy about dating whom she is dating. I would also add that he must be giving her signals that maybe she is not all that she thinks she is to him. I admire what you are doing for your children and hope everything works out. BTW: Her saying the things she did to you about him saying that you are not the same person he married either well everybody changes and I am sure you both made mistakes, that is just the nature of the beast but she is a complete nut to be calling you and talking to you about this stuff. It is none of her business and it takes a special kind of person to take it upon themselves and do this...CRAZY. I would document these calls and converations just in case she continues to take it too far. The kids already have a good mom, they don't need a crazy women to screw things up. ------------------ |
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kimber72 Member |
posted 09-22-2007 10:39 PM
I did document this all. The sad thing is, I know in my heart that if it were not for her, my kids would not get a lot of things they get. Or get to do a lot of the stuff they do, like go to the park, or apple picking or to a street fair. It is her that MAKES hi do stuff with his kids. It was her who bought them their christmas presents, and birthday presents, it is her that reminds him to call them. So while I do not want her to be MY friend, when it comes to my kids I need her to be my ally, and protect them when they are with their father. I can only hope that god is watching out for them, and maybe god gave them his girlfriend knowing my marriage would not survive all it had to endure. I know this relationship he is in will not last, and it may get worse than it was with me (i.e the verabal abuse may turn physical)I would like to belive god sent her to them, I just dont know if I am there yet. [This message has been edited by kimber72 (edited 09-22-2007).] |
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jasond Member |
posted 09-23-2007 09:31 PM
God is always working and He will bring good out of every situation. I am glad for your kids that she does this but I pity your ex that he does not. He is missing out and will look back years later wondering why his relationship with his kids just isn't there. Just pray that the woman will know her place in the relationship and that she is not thier mom nor has the right to drill you on your feelings. God Bless ------------------ |
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