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kimber72 Member |
posted 08-30-2007 05:32 PM
  
I'll give you guys the short story....had custody mediation the other day. I asked for it to try and make him stick to some kind of a schedule as opposed to calling me 1/2 hour before he wants to see the girls and then dropping them off 1 hour later...anyway he went in to this womans office ready to fight saying he wants the girls SUNDAY THRU FRIDAY EVERY week. That was dropped quickly when I said I was okay with the one day a week as long as he would be more consistant. Anyway, he was ready to give me every holiday with the girls, but the mediator told him he should at least take them on odd years. So he has a few on an odd year basis. He calls me not 1 hour later telling me he is not going to stick to it, that we can work this out with out putting it in writing, it should just be whomever wants them for that year gets to take them....I think this sucks, but why would I want to force my kids to be with a dad who only wants them if it is conveinent for him? Anyway, today the girls had their annual physical for school, and he calls me up wanting to come....HE NEVER came to any of the important doctors appointments when we were tying to diagnose our daughter, or to any of the early intervention appointments....and I really dont think he wants to get involved now....I dont know why he came. I guess part of me should be happy that he came. But he came cause it was conveinent for him, and he had nothing better to do before he had to pick up the kids (he lives to far to drive home and then come back). Mostly I am just pissed off becuase he thinks he can walk in and out of our lives at his will - as if we mean nothing to him. All I want is for him to go away and leave me and the girls alone...things would be so much easier. I think he eventually will, which will suck for the girls not knowing their dad, but then again with a dad like he is...Thanks for letting me vent - if anyone has experience with this maybe you can help me out |
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atwitsend Member |
posted 08-30-2007 10:04 PM
My ex is the same way. In and out of her life. he goes months at a time without wanting to see her, then calls and takes a visitation. I really think that is what has messed her up emotionally- why she has so much anger and does not know how to control her frustrations ( hopefully the counselor can help) I think when the other parent is in and out of their life, it is worse what not even being involved. I agree. Wish I had suggestions or words of wisdom for you, but I don't. I just understand. |
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