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harts Member |
posted 08-10-2007 09:30 PM
 
I'm a single mom and my 17 yr old son has his first serious girlfriend. He has lost his identity since he started dating her. He is with her constantly and even has lost interest in his sport (which he's state ranked in) and the season starts Monday. He's furious with me that he can't take her and pick her up from her sports practice because he has to go to his. I told him that is her family's concern. He doesn't spend time with his friends hardly either. I need to set guidelines and parameters because her parents obviously aren't. He takes her to school, takes her home, goes to lunch with her, studies with her.... I don't have anyone to bounce ideas off of. Can someone help? Thanks so much! |
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leigh1517 Member |
posted 08-11-2007 10:15 AM
I have 18 and 20 year old sons so I can relate. The more negative you are toward his "love" the more he will pursue it. I used to worry about my sons getting serious with girls and then realized that the relationships usually didn't last long and all my worry was for nothing. Try to ask him questions that show that you care about his girlfriend. Once he thinks you accept the relationship you will have lots more influence over it. Boys are strange creatures (haha) but if he thinks you are all for the relationship it will probably diminish his interest in it...reverse psychology!! |
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kimber72 Member |
posted 08-13-2007 08:24 PM
I dont have teen's and I dont have boys, so I cant really relate. My ex's nephew, a few years back, starting doing something similar, they did not even go to the same school. He spent so much time focusing on her and her needs that he ended up missing too many days of school and was told he could not graduate, he would have to go to summer school. Long story short - he dropped out. From an outsider looking in, the only thing my sister-in-laws nagging did was cause her son to defend his girlfriend. Not that I know how to do this, but perhaps you can remind him how much he loved his sport and how good he was at it without bringing her into it. Good luck! |
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